intj: *gets 5As and 1B in his IGCSE* *doesn't tell anyone* *gets out of school by accepting an offer letter by a private uni almost immediately last minute*

INFPxINTJ

Kay Adams and Michael Corleone

INFP: I FOUND A CUTE CAT. LOOK.  ฅ/ᐠ｡ᆽ｡ᐟ \

INFP: I have 5% battery left

INTJ: Did you even charge your phone last night?

INFP: Yeah! Well, more like yesterday afternoon

Three years ago, I had a big fallout with one of my best friends – who was, actually, my closest friend then. I’m an INFP and he’s an INTJ, and it was AWFUL. And in our case, it was a lot of bottled up stuff that eventually bubbled over, too. It happened one night while we were texting and somehow things got super tense and we started fighting. Thing is, INTJs can be very very hurtful when they get mad because they don’t know how to handle their feelings, so they just shut you out. (Then he started blaming me for his loneliness and it was hell) I was crying and trembling and went to sleep feeling like death that night. Next morning, he just came up to me and said hi like nothing had happened, and I had a breakdown. Then I told him that I wanted to talk and he said that he didn’t care about me at all (more like “I don’t give a shit about you”). Long story short, it took me months to be able to be in his presence at all, and over a year to have a normal friendship again.

We INFPs and INTJs usually get along so easily. We just click. But we INFPs want to heal the people we love, and can be suffocating without noticing. And INTJs can feel easily suffocated, so they burst. And an INFP will dedicate you unconditional love if you earn it, unless you do something that really doesn’t align with their principles. Maybe it was something like that. Like you said, it’s very situational, but that’s what I gather from personal experience.

Hope it helps!

Friend Typing:

INFP and INTJ

INFJ admin: Every relationship has the potential to be successful or fail. I wouldn’t look at it like “is this relationship more likely to work than the others” because whether we want to admit it or not, a lot of relationship success or failure can be attributed to timing, environment, upbringing, situations, chance, and other random things we have no control over. It’s something nobody wants to think about because then we have to admit that everything is out of our control and that maybe one stupid argument due to one random happening can ruin an otherwise successful relationship or just one random habit picked up through childhood can prevent even the best pair from giving it a chance. There are so many variables that would affect a relationship’s success that I can’t even begin to tell you the butterfly effect anything can cause. Hell every current successful relationship has a chance to fail at any moment based on a plethora of circumstances alone– but we don’t like to think about that do we? Because it’s scary. So instead we consult the zodiac and personality theories to see if there’s anything that’s certain. And the answer is, there isn’t. It’s all luck.

So to answer your question, yes, it’s possible. Because technically any pairing is possible. While at the same time holding potential for failure. With also the potential to not get off the ground at all.

On that note INTJxINFP relationships are probably the most complained about relationship that reaches my inbox. Usually “My INFP is too clingy and needy and irrationally emotional and I can’t take it anymore” or “My INTJ is insensitive and hurtful and doesn’t show me any affection and I feel neglected”. So there’s your cons.