#ilearned

There’s a chance that you, the person that reads this, had the experience to experience the first time you loved a woman, with all your soul, with everything you had, but in the end all that remained are the memories. If this happened in your life, you might read this. I hope you will find yourself in my words. I am sure that you had the experience to love a woman that you could proudly say that you will marry. You seen her as an angel, a blessing in your life. She meant the world to you, and in the moments you lived with her, everything else looked like it doesn’t matter anymore. You didn’t know what love was before you met her, so you gave the world “love” a meaning, and you felt like you were good at showing it.

You never ever wanted to imagine that she will leave you, and you refused to think that any bad thing will happen between you. The relationship seemed unbreakable, full of love and positive vibes. But when an argument came up, the world turned upside down. All the love seemed like it flew away, you were throwing words at each other that were going straight at each other’s heart. You put your pride first, as you didn’t wanted to get hurt. What happened with everything? Is our love gone? You might have asked yourself this questions.

But in the end, you managed to calm yourself down, and everything turned back to normal, like nothing happened. You are still hurt inside, but you don’t want to ruin her vibe by saying it. She was everything that mattered, and you tried your best to make her feel like she has the best man besides her.

When you were not prepared, a huge argument came up. She was acting like you never seen before. She was cold, and seemed like she’s not the same person you thought she is. A huge wave of painful words came straight to you, and right when you were on your knees, she left. In that moment, the time stopped. You were out of words, and you could feel your heart slowly ripping apart. That is the moment which you never wanted to come, but there it was. It was painful, crazy, mad, disappointing. There are many words to describe that feeling, yet in a way, is indescribable.

If you are going through this, or you have been through this but you still can feel the pain, listen to me. You had the power to give the word “love” a meaning. You had the ability to put a woman in an untouched place in your heart. You had the courage to go over the arguments, and the forgiveness to make everything go back to normal. You have the power to go over her, but you are too afraid to have the same experience again, right?

Well, you shouldn’t be afraid to. In love, we either gain a person for the rest of our life, or a lesson. I know, we did mistakes too, we probably weren’t the best man a woman can have, but we gave our best. Trust me, there will be the moment when we’ll meet a person to do the same thing to us. We’ll feel when a person will love us, we’ll see how much they care about us, all because of the lesson that our first love gave us.

I’m telling you, don’t worry. You’ll get over it. You’ll love again, you’ll be loved and everything will be like you always wanted to. But don’t hate your first love, respect her. She will realise one day that she lost the best man she’ll ever meet, but it’ll be too late. Forget the past. Focus on the present, because it will shape your future. Just remember, she gave you an important lesson which will help you throughout your whole life, so be thankful for that!

Overall, don’t be afraid to love again. Just because it happened once, doesn’t mean it will happen again. Get to know a person enough to know her flows, her ups and downs, and her at the worst. If you still love that person in all the situations, and so does she, that’s the person you looked for your entire life. Be patient, and never lose hope. You can move on. Get yourself together, and put your mind to it. You’ll thank me one day, but remember: Whatever your first woman did to you, don’t do it to anyone else. Show the best person you can be, in order to see the best version of someone.

I learned that it is no one's job, BUT MINE, to take care of me and make me happy.