gentle advice: learn to not idolise anyone
This means to learn that no matter how much you like and admire someone, no one is flawless entirely. That doesn’t mean everyone is a bad person, on the contrary. But you are allowed to see the flaws and things you don’t like in others and still love them!
It means you can read a nonfiction book and go “I agree with most of this but not all” - even if it’s written by an expert!
You can be a fan of someone and not love all of their work.
You can love someone’s professional work but not put them as a private person on a pedestal.
You can be annoyed or have disagreements with your friends, (chosen) family and relationship partners and love them at the same time.
Humans and our relationships are full of nuance.
If you put someone on a pedestal or idolise them, the flipside is always what happens when you get disillusioned. And you will get disillusioned, because that flawless image of them is an illusion. So your idols will become soiled in your mind sooner or later and you will feel personally betrayed and hurt - but chances are they have never pretended to be perfect! (If they have, distrust them.)
Not idolising someone means feeling safe enough to see their flaws without it causing fear and dispair.
It’s ok for someone to just be human (with flaws) if these flaws are not a threat to you and your emotional, mental or physical survival.
If you have others you can rely on as well, including yourself. If you can trust someone to be supportive of you even with all their flaws still. If you can trust yourself to survive disappointment (should it come), because you have survived it and you have others who will still be there for you.