#ideobinary issues

1. Masculinity is often treated as the same as maleness, and femininity is often treated as the same as femaleness, including within nonbinary communities.

This means it’s hard to trust that alignment, presentation, orientation, and other kinds of labels are meant to include me, who has a gender that is masculine and feminine but not male or female.

2. People throw “masc aligned” and “fem aligned” around, but they don’t give any thought as to if or how those are different from “male aligned” and “female aligned”.

People frequently say juxera is a feminine gender and proxvir is a masculine one, ignoring how the original post says nothing about this.

People say finsexual is sexual attraction to feminine people, but if someone says they are attracted to girls and demigirls and not really comfortable with feminamoric or bi, fin will be suggested.

Ceterogender is a nonbinary gender which may be masculine, feminine or neutral, but ceterogender flags are called ceteroboy and ceterogirl.

Librafeminine and libragirl are considered synonyms. Same for libramasculine and libraboy.

3. There are not many popular ideobinary-leaning labels.

Sure, some people use nonbinary girl/boy or demigirl/boy and mean “I have a feminine/masculine gender which is not binary”, but most people will explain those labels as “I’m partly a binary gender” or “my gender is similar to a binary gender but not quite the same” or “I’m mostly not binary at all but I feel some connection with being a girl/boy”.

Transfeminine and transmasculine are often used in a more female-adjacent and male-adjacent sense, even if they have feminine/masculine in the name.

Labels such as ceterogender, femgender, mascgender, faesari, cenrell, rubygender, sapphiregender, nonvir, nonera, ungender, telegender, altegender? Largely unused.

This contributes to the idea that your gender identity is either close to the binary or entirely detached from it. Which is something I’ve seen while people separated identities between midbinary and abinary, or between solarian, lunarian and stellarian.

4. How can I deal with dysphoria if my gender is not tied to aesthetic, to neutrality, to genderlessness or to binary genders? How can I approach masculinity without approaching maleness, or approach femininity without approaching femaleness?

That model definitely has a lot of issues that may overlap. For instance, insisting that nonbinary people can only be respected as such if they are completely “androgynous” and don’t identify with femininity, masculinity, being a man or being a woman at all may affect both ideobinary people and viabinary people, and also affect exobinary people in a different way when they don’t want to be seen as “in-between”.

Maverique could easily be classified as an exobinary gender, imho; even if it is defined by “bouncing off” the binary, most issues faced by someone whose experience is independent of maleness or femaleness or masculinity or femininity at all, I would guess (I’m not maverique so feel free to correct me) the maverique experience would include:

People doubting maveriques exist or “not understanding how they can exist” because maverique is not defined as similar or as a parallel to a binary gender;

People not wanting to classify a maverique’s gender expression as maverique or maverique-like, because they only accept feminine/masculine/androgynous as gender expressions;

People not understanding how can a maverique have dysphoria, or how a maverique’s dysphoria can work, because they can only think of bodies as “male or close to male”, “female or close to female” or maybe in-between;

A bunch of stuff related to gender trinarism and hatred of newer/less common/harder to understand identities, which doesn’t fit the system because exobinary also includes agender or gender neutral people.

These are mostly exobinary, although some of these could also be applied to ideobinary people.