"So.. you and Stefan are a... thing."
"Stefan and I have been a thing for a long time. He just took a detour to deal with some inconvenient, albeit valid emotional trauma."
At least she's come to accept his feelings as valid. Contrary to popular belief if you help her, she will put in work to be more reasonable. You can't just tell her she's bad and not give her ways to fix it. Thankfully, they both put in the effort to address and work through that.
She is still highly defensive however, if she thinks you're trying to invalidate her again.

















