#histerec

For those of you who have been with trans guys: is it weird for you to be with a trans guy who isn’t feminine, who’s had some surgeries (in my case, top surgery and hysterectomy, I don’t plan on getting phalloplasty), who isn’t 100% bottom and also likes being top sometimes, and who has a more “typical” masculine vibe? I’m not straight, I’m bi, but I do have a more “straight-passing” kind of personality. Like, I’m not really into pop divas, I don’t know a lot of LGBTQ slang, I’m not really into the memes, I’ve never watched Drag Race, I don’t know Beyoncé songs or Lady Gaga albums… stuff like that. But at the same time, I’m caring, attentive, I can cook well…

Do you think that affects things? Maybe it’s because I tend to like more feminine guys? And maybe they’re not into trans guys?

PT-BR

Vocês, homens cis gays, podem me ajudar, seja por aqui ou nas mensagens privadas?

Pra vocês que ficam com caras trans: é estranho ficar com um cara trans que não é afeminado, que já fez algumas cirurgias (no meu caso, mastectomia e histerectomia, não pretendo fazer faloplastia), que não é 100% passivo e que também gosta de ser ativo às vezes, e que tem um jeito mais “padrão” de homem? Eu não sou hétero, sou bi, mas tenho um jeito mais “hétero” de ser. Por exemplo: não entendo muito de divas pop, não acompanho algumas gírias LGBTs, não estou por dentro dos memes, nunca assisti Drag Race, não conheço músicas da Beyoncé nem sei nomes de álbuns da Lady Gaga… e por aí vai. Mas, ao mesmo tempo, sou carinhoso, atencioso, sei cozinhar bem…

I had my hysterectomy in June 2025, here in Brazil, in my state, Paraná.

Now in the capital there are two clinics for trans people, one of them is the oldest. I spent exactly 10 years there, and finally they started offering surgeries for trans people.

The surgeries are scheduled based on how long you’ve been in the program and whether you keep up with follow-ups.

The same month I completed 10 years on hormone therapy was the month I had my uterus, tubes, and ovaries fully removed. It was a huge win for me.

Even on testosterone, my cramps were horrible, so there’s nothing better than removing what hurts.

Other people had already gone through the surgery before me, especially a close friend, so we compared our recovery for a while. Like I mentioned in my top surgery post, my skin is thick, so I only had internal stitches and surgical glue on the outside. My friend had both internal and external stitches.

My surgery took about 3 hours and it was completely free. The surgeon and the whole medical team were extremely well-prepared and very respectful toward patients.

I had no post-op issues and didn’t even feel pain when I got home. I’m really grateful they cared about our well-being and followed through on the promise to make these surgeries happen.

Now I feel calmer and I’m living better without a uterus 🙌🏻

PT-BR