#hatedistance

me corté el cabello.

te preguntaras porque ...

te gustaba largo y dices

que cambie,

no lo se, tal vez.

sabes el tiempo no ha pasado muy rapido

y te pensé

¿y la promesa de viajar y vernos?

te pregunte.

me dijiste “lo que sea el destino

algun dia nos tendremos que ver

te lo dije mi niña

te esperaré toda una vida

y aunque nuestras vidas tomen

un rumbo diferente 

siempre estaras en mi mente 

 de aquella niña que vivia en roma y

You are single, bored and you just have nothing

to do. It is another miserable day like the day

before. You need someone to talk to and you are

turning on the computer, browsing some… dating

sites. There are so many people… singles, like

you are.

What should you ask from them? Can they change

your life for better?

The answer to the last question is up to you.

Would you let a person you have met online to

change your life? Are you willing to do this? Do

you trust someone you have met this way?

SOME people simply do not have the courage to let

an online relationship to develop and change in a

normal healthy relationship. Are you one of them?

Let me re-ensure you that online relationships

really are working, and yes it can change your

entire life, in a good way. 

But there are some impediments or mistakes which

are leading to the end of the relationship

between two people that could have had a good

future together:

1. First of all if you do not take people you are

taking to too seriously, you will be treated the

same way.

2. Being too secret and reserved. If you do not

tell things about you and you are not working to

develop a relationship, nobody will make this for

you.

3. Trust or lack of trust is the biggest

impediment of an eRelathionship. You have to try

to get the people you are taking to trust in you,

and then find out if that person is a trustworthy

one. There are so many ways to check out this.

4. Being shy. If you are interested in someone

and you want to meet her/him offline, let her/him

know this. What do you have to lose?

5. Fear of disappointment or fear of becoming a

victim of someone with bad intentions can make

you paranoid. It is good to be preventive but not

exaggerate about this. It is not funny and will

pull people away.

6. Unbelieving. If you do not believe that an

eRelathionship can become something more then it

is, you will not pay too much attention and…

You get exactly what you give and some more, don’

t you?

7. Do not make that relationship a priority in

your life. Any human needs to feel that is

important for someone, that is the center of

someone life, even if you have meet that human

online. Don’t you feel the same? Wouldn’t you pay

more attention to someone if you would know that

you are a priority in his/her life?

8. Not making the next step. Talking online can

be fun but it is not enough to get to know a

person better and after a while it can become

boring. Talking on the phone can help you two to

develop the relationship and do not forget that

you can feel chemistry only when you two are

meeting face to face, touching each other,

feeling the smell of her/his perfume.

9. Beeing insincere, pretending that you are

something that you are not will lead you

eventually to the end of any relationship. So be

honest from the very beginning, maybe you have

just meat the mach of your life, don’t take the

risk to lose her because of a stupid mistake.

10. Thinking that online dating sites are some

kind of shops where you can find a lover like you

find a pear of shoes, and if you are braking the

shoes you can go back to that shop and buy

another pair just like the first. It is not true,

every human, every soul is unique. If you lose

her/him it is for good. So I am sure that you

will have problems like all couples have but it

is worthy to make the effort to solve these

problems together.

Be happy that the technology gives you the chance

to meet your match online, but do not waste this

Love, the feeling that makes a person new and feel heavenly. Love, a feeling that changes life within a moment. Have we not heard of love at first sight? One who was happy go lucky in the morning, gets deep and dreamy looks in the eyes by the time the evening arrives. What happened? He/she fell in love during the day and now does not know what to do?

The very first response of such people is dreaming. They have dreams during the night and more often during the day. They lose all attention to their work and the only work left for them is to think of their latest sweetheart. Then begins the planning of where to meet again? How to spot that lovely person again? Through friends, or what? Depends on where the love was found at the first place. After getting few glimpses more, the love deepens and the dreams become more frequent. But at the same time, fear sets in. What if the other party refuses to reciprocate? What if the other one does not like me? So looks are given immediate attention. ‘What if the other party is already in love with someone? That will be horrible. Let me not think of that at all. And if it comes to that, I will move heavens to win my love.’