#happiness guide

HOW TO WRITE JOY

Definition: Feeling or showing pleasure or contentment Synonyms: content, cheerful, merry, happy, joking, gleeful, grinning, radiant Similar to: Ecstasy, Serenity, Optimism, and Love

TRIGGERS:

Completing a difficult task 

Seeing someone you know 

Music you love 

Sunlight or nature

Eating good food

Physical exercise 

Laughing with friends 

Drawing, writing, or creating something new 

Closure

Witnessing kindness

Learning something new

Hugging someone

Petting an animal 

Meaningful conversation 

Achieving a goal 

Giving or receiving help 

Compliments 

Looking at nostalgic photos 

Feeling accepted

BODY LANGUAGE CUES

Face & Head

Head held upright

Frequent nodding while listening

Lips slightly parted or slightly closed

A full smile (corners all the way up)

Eyes

Soft, steady eye contact

Eyes seem brighter

Faint crow’s feet around the eyes (forced smiles do not do this)

Eyebrows lift naturally

Eyes slightly narrowed

Hands, Arms, and Shoulders

Shoulders loose and relaxed

Fidgeting (if excited)

Animated hand gestures

Hands relaxed (palms occasionally showing)

May reach out occasionally (touch objects, people, animals)

Body Language

Leaning slightly forward

Feet pointed toward person of interest

Bouncing or swinging slightly

Speech/Voice

Humming to themselves

Light, bubbly tone

Slightly higher pitch

Warmer words

More compliments

Faster speech

Rambly if excited

INTERNAL SENSATIONS

Lightness in the chest

A slightly giddy feeling

Belly breathing

Warmth in abdomen

Stomach feels settled

Pain may be temporarily forgotten

Not too long ago I had someone message me asking ‘how do I become happy?’ and I took my time to think about it before I respond, and it’s something that has been going through my mind a lot lately, and quite honestly ... I don’t have the answer.

Happiness is something so unique and individual. Everyone experiences and measures happiness in different ways. It really depends on where you are in your life right now, what you have been through, where you’re headed, the vibrational frequency you’re at and much more.

This example might sound a bit cliche, but I’ll use it regardless. Something that would make a homeless man on the street happy, is most definitely not going to be the same thing that makes a rich guy in his million dollar mansion happy. 

However, I can tell you for a fact the way that doesn’t work, and this is ignoring your past, your surroundings, your struggles.

Once I started getting into the study of the Law of Attraction, I thought for a while, that if I just think happy thoughts and ignore all the bad shit that was happening to me/around me and sort of neglect or suppress my feelings, I’d easily vibrate on a higher frequency. Well, it doesn’t work like this.

Your thoughts are crazy important, but what’s more important are your emotions! How you feel dictates everything! You can tell yourself a million times ‘I’m a money magnet’ or ‘People are easily drawn to me’ but if deep down you feel worthless or like a failure, guess what, your affirmations are not going to work. This is the harsh truth, and anyone telling you a different story is lying to you or themselves.

I’m not saying affirmations don’t work, they do, but you need to allow yourself to FEEL them. And you can’t really feel the power of those positive affirmations, if there are a bunch of negative emotions you’re suppressing.

So I guess if I had to give you advice on how to be happy, the first thing to do would be to figure out what makes you unhappy! Acknowledge it, even if it’s dark, ugly, difficult. And take your time to process it, whether this means crying, shouting, going for a boxing class to let some steam off, meditating, journaling, etc. Once you process the negativity and the root of the problem, it’s so much easier to let go. And once you let go of those negative/sad/angry feelings, you make space for the positivity, light, love to come in, stay and take over your life.

Personally, I’ve found journaling amazing. Often times our brains tend to convince us that the problems we might be dealing with are humungous and there’s no solution to them BUT once you write it down on a piece of paper, once you get that ‘problem’ out of your head, you realise that things aren’t actually THAT serious like our brains make them out to be. This helps a lot with processing and dealing with anxiety, daily stress, imposter syndrome, etc. If there’s something bigger you’re dealing with - grief, depression, suicidal thoughts, don’t be afraid to reach out for help. 🧡

The Luxury of Missing Your Own Blessing (And How To Stop)

Ladies, your charming rogue of a reader just cracked open the cosmos for this video - and darling, your future’s being delivered faster than your late-night online shopping regrets. I decided to translate that sneaky Russian title because apparently the universe prefers dramatics in Cyrillic these days: “What KIND OF HAPPINESS is coming to you? How NOT TO MISS IT?” Cheeky, no? I prepared this after noticing how brilliantly we destroy our own joy - like cancelling plans with destiny because we’re too busy doomscrolling or romancing red flags. The cards revealed your specific flavor of incoming bliss... and your matching talent for tripping over it in platform heels.

This isn’t some sugar-coated “manifest your best life” nonsense. We’re dissecting the hilarious horror show of self-sabotage - why you’ll ghost opportunities that don’t arrive wrapped in trauma bonds or ignore cosmic signs because Mercury’s always retrograde in your mental chatroom. I’ve blended intuition with the psychological equivalent of a cold shower and a strong espresso. Think of me as your spirit guide who’ll call you out when you’re romanticizing red flags again. The universe sent this reading to slap you awake - gently, but with enough force to knock loose those rose-colored glasses. Your happiness isn’t hiding, pet. You’re just excellent at playing hide-and-seek with the lights off.

Need some help on how to find happiness or just plain getting your happy switch turned to the “on” position?

Well, after a lot of research, my friend Sue-Ann Bubacz has helped me put together The Ultimate Guide to help you find happiness!

Ready? Here we go.

Happy. Happier. Happiness.

Just those words bring visions of peace, contentment, and joy, don’t they? But feeling happy can be fleeting,…

Have you ever feel sooo happy that you can’t stop smiling but feeling uneasy at the same time? To me, it happened several times, not much. I can still remember every single moment of those happy times.

I re-watched the final episode of Produce 101 Season 2 for I-don’t-know-how-many-times-already. To talk about the result, we may be disappointed because those who supposed to debut, turned out, failed to make it to the group. As for me, it was okay, since all the trainees I am rooting for made it to the final line up, they will debut soon. I brought it up, because I also feel how happy they are when their names are being called. Even after they sit on their thrones, they made their funny faces, (yeah I would say it was funny, even though they were not doing it intentionally), eyes perfect rounded and mouth opened but can’t hide the happiness the felt, showing how happy they were to hear the surprising result (well, for them). It is like, “YES, I MADE IT!”, “WOAH, I AM DEBUTING!”, but at the same time, you try to deny because you are afraid that it was just a dream, that the fact you have to face tomorrow is not what you think it would be.

Once, I had a sudden trip with my friends, we said it family back then but I still assume them as home. Sudden things, sometimes, give the best result and leave the biggest impact, right? We were going for a night drive to a city next to ours to refresh our body in bathing place. We joked and sang all along the way. I was so happy to be in that car, to be with them, to be in that moment, that I started smiling continuously and asked God to always keep us that way, I don’t want this to change.

Then, once, I was really happy to have someone close to me, that a friend of him even said that he entrust him to me. For God sake, I didn’t even believe this happening but it happened. I smiled so hard but was about to cry denying things. I was feeling anxious for no reason.

I don’t have to mention about my SBMPTN result, I could say it was the happiest moment of my life.

There’s still A LOT!

To think about those happy times, I am so grateful, that God always gives chances to make the best out of me and to create the best memories I could never forget. Although, most of times things changed. Things change. People change. But memory remains, doesn’t it? Despite anything, I am grateful that I was once being happy with thing, people, situation that has totally changed by now.

I would say, it is okay to have anxiety, to feel uneasy, to be afraid, when actually there’s nothing to be afraid of. Happiness is something you create yourself, most people failed to figure out how, and as for me, it is not easily came or created. People need to anticipate every single thing that may come into their lives. So, one thing you should never forget, be happy while you’re at it. Don’t ever let other feelings drag you down when you shouldn’t feel that way. Someday, things may not always go as you wish it would be, but that is tomorrow’s problem that you shouldn’t be bothered by now. Be grateful when you are happy and be forever grateful for what happened into your life.

Then, when things actually changed, you need to be at ease, that you were once happy before everything became this complicated or before human change into a beast.

Whatever comes is coming, whatever leaves is leaving, and whatever remains is remaining.

So, why don’t we just focus on creating happy memories and be happy while we’re at it? 

It wasn’t a thing anyone could afford easily that we have to be grateful, we were once living a happy life. 

Think openly, without constrictions.

Live infinitely, not with limits.

Guide to happiness, success encourages readers to focus on their consciousness

(PR NewsChannel) / March 27, 2013 / ORLANDO, Fla.   Upgrade by Graeme Edward Duncan Even as a young adult, Graeme Edward Duncan was determined to find the secrets to happiness and success in a world full of confusion and unhappiness. In “Upgrading Your Life: How to Unlock Your Enthusiasm and Drive to Achieve Happiness and Success” (ISBN 1463647999), Duncan aims to map out a step-by-step approach…