#grumpytrans

I believed for a long time that if someone didn't have consistent physical dysphoria then they couldn't be transgender. I was very upset with trans people being too gnc. I was skeptical of most nb people.

While I believed this I was a very hateful person in all aspects of my life. I wasn't happy and I was dragging my IRL trans friends down with me.

I was in a relationship with a transmed and that in a way made me want to enforce the ideology more. After that relationship ended I did a lot of self reflection. One of the things I refelected on was my truscum beliefs.

I came to the conclusion that I have no place to tell someone who they could or couldn't be. I have no place to tell someone what will make them happy. It is not up to me to tell someone not to pursue comfort when they do not necessarily recognize a discomfort.

I still believe that there is some biological aspect that makes someone trans. I still believe that gender is real and inate and not purely a social construct. I still believe that someone shouldn't transition medically unless they're absolutley sure that it will improve their life. I'm still a bit skeptical about the people who claim not to experience dysphoria nor euphoria in regards to their gender.

However, I refuse to put myself in a place that makes people afraid to be themselves and express their gender no matter how they do it.