#grahmscracker

i don’t know what your living situation is like and if you have the space/a kitchen, but having them over for a meal you cooked yourself  would be nice

get the loveliest christmas card you can find and express your gratitude through your own words, in my family we always keep the cards for display the next year and reading the inside of them always brings up fond memories

also homemade assorted chocolates recipe:

get a silicone mold for chocolate or ice-cubes (i have heart shaped ones)

get some chocolate(maybe a white bar and a milk/dark chocolate),

a small handful of dried nuts, a couple of cookies/biscuits, 4-5 dried prunes or other dried wrinkly fruit and a dash of whatever alcohol you have lying around

cut up the fruit and let them soak overnight in a small splosh of the alcohol

chop up the nuts, crumble the biscuits finely and dry off your alcohol infused fruit (you can actually omit this and just have plain differently shaped chocolates)

now you’ll need two containers, one you can put on a hotplate/stove and a small plastic one which can easily fit in the other

boil some water in the metal container and then turn the heat very low 

cut up half a chocolate bar, throw the pieces in the plastic container and then place it in the water wait until it’s melted and throw in a combo of your chopped ingredients or just one of them (not too much), stir and then take out of the water and carefully pour into your mold (there are people who actually temper chocolate but nobody has time for that)

tap the mold on a flat hard surface so that your mixture sits evenly and repeat with the rest of your chocolate until the mold is filled

pop it in the fridge

i’m going to add this to the list of things that make me very very wary of apps like tinder, wow

tbf it's mostly hilarious and i would never actually meet up with anybody from it!! you get some creeps but you can block them really easily and some guys are pretty funny. i'm pretty sure this one is joking but y'know

also it's a great ego boost if one of the super hot ones matches with you wooo

matsuohka replied to your post: incredible

….i’m wow

i know -- this isn't even the best/worst (depending on your perspective) that i've had

grahmscracker replied to your post: incredible

Tinder is the strangest thing I can’t decide what to think of it

Ellie Goulding - Burn

Feel free to drop me a message if you ever want someone to talk to <3

I like the purple maybelline one right now- i think its volume express. Or if you want stuff thats more natural and better for you get aveda mosscara but its expensive and not as dramatic.

2. You’re in the process of transformation  respect this process.

3. Take risks and don’t let things prevent you from living how you want

4. Shift your perception of yourself to positive, work your defining qualities to your strengths. 

5. Don’t compare yourself. 

(^Just a summary for you since all my responses are hella long)

Well, I think the most important thing is to understand that everything you want to become, you already are. If you want to become more confident, more social, more thoughtful, more loving, stronger, happier, whatever it is, understand that you’re just in a state of transition. It’s all about respecting the process and having patience. Like anything it takes time before you see any results, so know that you’re just growing. A lot of people see a flaw in themselves and work to correct it, but get frustrated and angry at themselves for not seeing results faster. So whatever it is that’s making it a struggle for you to love yourself, know that since you’re now conscious of it, you’ll subconsciously/consciously work to grow into who you want to become. So it’s all about having respect for the process, and accepting that you’re in a state of growth. 

The other thing is that most personality traits are either grouped into good or bad, and there isn’t much acknowledgement for the grey area unfortunately. So whatever it is you’re not so fond of, see how you can turn it around and use it as a strength. If you don’t like how shy you are or something, see how it benefits you by making you a better observer, and understanding people better. 

And if you see someone who has all these traits you want, or seems like a much cooler person or whatever, don’t try and emulate them. Comparing yourself is always very hazardous because a lot of the time (so I believe) we have some traits that are in our nature, so learn to respect differences rather than idolize them. You’re your own person, as if everyone else, so respect them for who they are, and respect yourself for who you are.

Start to look at yourself with rose coloured glasses, and that side of yourself will slowly unfold.  Have patience for overcoming certain flaws, and respect for your defining qualities. You have the capacity to be absolutely anything, so be patient and stay committed and let the path unfold as it will and just be patient with yourself. Rome wasn’t built in a day. 

And with my confidence I sort of put things into perspective. All the reasons I held back were just so damn ridiculous. Like, if there was someone I thought looked cool, I wouldn’t talk to them because I though, well damn, what if I say hi and theres nothing left to say? That would be uncomfortable for the both of us. But you’ve gotta take a step back and understand that there is no damn consequence after that. So what you say hi and that’s it, and the conversation doesn’t continue. This isn’t going to drastically impact your life so why not? And I wouldn’t go apply for jobs because I though during my interview I’d blush and get uncomfortable and say something dumb, but take a step back, who gives a fuck, you don’t get the job. That is all. It’s just about taking those little risks. You have to take those little risks, and when you do, it becomes increasingly evident that there is no reason for you not to be confident. Even if you make a fool of yourself sometimes, it simply doesn’t matter. 

I was in Demeter’s with my friends about a week ago, and I accidentally shouted “BITCH” really damn loud, and you know what, it wasn’t a big deal. Yea the whole restaurant heard me, but so what, it doesn’t affect my life in the long run.- And the people who probably think I have a raging temper, I’m never going to see them again, so it doesn’t much matter.

Also that same night I had a porno open on my friends phone, just holding the phone in my hands, and the waitress comes over, looks directly at the screen, and you know, I could get hung up about that and let that restrict me from having fun next time, but it’s just not a big deal. You have to put yourself in uncomfortable situations and you realize theres no reason not to be beamingly confident. 

But what is it that’s specifically making it difficult for you? Come off anon if you want. x