#glaschus

If you want to see another example of what it's like to interact with a manipulative abuser, I present to you the little joy I was greeted by today, when I was greeted by two messages after loading my dashboard.

One is an anon that I already replied to, who was telling me that I was a terrible actress. This was pretty confusing, and then I read the second message, in which someone was messaging me to tell me they went to poke the hornet's nest and wwwarmaiden/glaschus and asstigmatism got all butthurt and immediately thought I was sockpuppeting and the whole thing is honestly one giant clusterfuck.

As if anyone could ever see me writing less than two paragraphs as a reply to someone, seriously. *rolls eyes*

That said, this does seem like a good thing to talk about if only to help people recognize this kind of behavior so they can avoid it in the future.

For wwwarmaiden/glaschus's narrative to take hold, she has to push two ideas:

1) That I flipped out at her because she called me a racist.

This is a lie on her part, but it's an expected one. When we are challenged on doing something shitty, as people we tend to deflect in whatever way possible and cast ourselves as the victim/defender.

In actuality, I called her out first. The reason we had a discussion at all is because I criticized how she and clara-the-slytherin-graduate attacked geekandmisandry, pointing out that she didn't demonstrate racism and was in fact being hella ableist and aphobic, in addition to her history of transphobia.

But, and here's an important part, in order to make her story work she needs to sell herself as someone who is bravely calling out a racist, so all of what she's saying and all of what her supporters are saying is that I reacted to being called a racist.

It's not hard to see that they're lying and I'm not, the posts are there to look at.

2) That I won't let it go.

Honestly? It does take some work to let things go, but if you're reading this and you followed that whole debacle, then you will know that I haven't talked about it in several days. Once wwwarmaiden/glaschus and I went at each other and finally both mutually blocked, I had a couple more days of people coming into my asks about it, saying basically the same kind of shit. And then I was done.

By comparison, as soon as they were able wwwarmaiden/glaschus and asstigmatism both seem to still be obsessed enough with me to accuse someone else of being my sockpuppet, which is like...yeah, ladies, let it go.

Just to reiterate the important parts.

wwwarmaiden/glaschus is a manipulative abuser who makes accusations of racism against people she doesn't like, which includes anyone who criticizes her. Doesn't matter why you criticize her, to her, doing so is racist. She's also ableist, having literally said that the majority of disabled people who object to ableism are doing so to defend their own bigotry and racism. She's also said that the entire ace community are racists and that she doesn't trust them nor does she believe they have any place in the LGBTQ+ community.

She's also mocked a non-binary person for their identity and their pronouns and then claimed that doing so was a mistake because she speaks ESL, even though she immediately doubled down on her shittiness immediately following that which kinda suggests that English being her second language didn't present any actual challenge for her.

Additionally, she surrounds herself with other exclusionists like herself that are very happy to go to bat for her. She said the term 'cult of personality' to criticize someone, but I'm guessing she wouldn't like seeing that statement pointed at her.

As for my stake? I pointed out that she was abusing people and when I realized that she has a history of not just doing so but also changing her username to escape the fallout from being a manipulative abuser I upped that to a call out because I think she's an actual danger to the people she might interact with on tumblr. Maybe she's a weak danger, since she's just going to try to make people's lives hell, but her clique's penchant for authoritarianism and bullying certainly makes it a real danger.

Calling someone out for their performative...

So, if you read my tumblr you've probably seen my responses to wwwarmaiden and clara-the-slytherin-graduate after their attack posts against geekandmisandry kinda blew up in their faces.

I've since discovered that wwwarmaiden used to be glaschus, who aside from attacking a trans woman in the past has been consistently aphobic and has been pulling this sort of shit for a while.

I've been blocked by both of them for criticizing their arguments and you can see in my responses how I addressed the points they made. And yeah, it sucks to criticize a woman of color who's making accusations of racism because I believe we always have to take such concerns dead seriously. But wwwarmaiden isn't making accusations of racism because she’s found racism to oppose, she's making baseless accusations to attack people with call out posts.

This pattern of behavior isn't about fighting racism at all; it's about using your own status as a marginalized person to attack other people. It’s an abuse tactic.

She's not calling out racism or she'd be talking about racism. Instead, she's just hurling insults and using accusations of racism to engage in what I can really only describe as abusive behavior. Otherwise she’d actually be making an argument. She’d be saying something is racist and she'd be telling us why it's racist. She'd back up what she says by illustrating something, *anything* about how GAM is perpetuating racism. Instead, all she does is make statement after statement that 'this is racist' or 'that is racist' without ever actually saying why or how.

If you disagree with something someone has said, calling it racist because they disagreed with you is not sufficient to actually prove that it's racist. And it's surprisingly fucking easy to prove that something is racist, all it takes is a moment of discussion. Stereotypes, for example, are pretty fucking obvious to those of us who care about unlearning our own racism. Or maybe you could demonstrate that someone is shouting down women of color.

Instead, wwwarmaiden argues that white people aren't allowed to use the term intersectionality, despite the originator of the term (more on her in a moment) specifically saying that isn’t the case. She’s arguing that GAM is performatively anti-racist 'because I said so', just asking us to take her word on it. Because somehow she's got proof, we just have to trust her on it. And any criticism leveled at her is interpreted as a racist attack on her. Doesn't matter how legitimate it is.

Don't get me wrong. It is incredibly important that we take racism seriously and accept that all white people are raised in an environment of white supremacy. I want to be absolutely clear to you if you're reading this and you're white, you have to work to unlearn the racist attitudes that you've been raised with. It is the only way that we're going to dismantle racism, and make no mistake that it is entirely on white people like myself to do that work. It's up to us to demand of our leaders that we fight to end racism in all of our political structures.

Here are some ways that you can help.

Go read Kimberle Crenshaw, the woman who coined the term intersectional feminism, she’s a great academic. Read bell hooks, although you should beware that she's been a little problematic when it comes to trans women. Go read anything Laverne Cox has had to say about the struggles of black trans women. Follow people like Shaun King and Son of Baldwin and Ijeoma Oluo to stay aware of what prominent black voices are saying in social media.

Support Black Lives Matter. Learn the names of the trans women of color that get murdered every year and say their names, shout them at your representatives until your throat is raw because you demand justice for them. Question the police, film them, and if needs be get in between a cop's gun and a person of color.

But most of all, if you're going to be an ally, learn to listen. Allyship is difficult and thankless work, and rightly so. We don't deserve a cookie for being allies. As an ally you need to listen to what people of color have to say and then give them your voice to amplify their own. We don't talk for black people and other people of color, we help them become louder and then we take what they've given us and use to to enact real, political change.

why do whites have absolutely no self awareness like not at all

“I plan on collecting my white sisters” no offence but collect yourself first

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"collecting my white sisters"............ omg this is so fucked. whites really don't know how to treat us like humans huh. just doesn't come natural to them