#giveadvice

Hello. I understand how you are feeling. It sucks, when you are being yourself and no seems to get that, or understand you, or appreciate you. Loneliness is tough, I get that. Maybe you aren’t trying hard enough? That sounds awful I know, but maybe, you should expand your perspective. Instead of just going to school and looking for friends. Try a club? A new sport club, a poem club, youth club,volunteering,cooking lessons?  it could be anything. Maybe go out with your cousin or your sister, and meet her friends, which can lead to mutual friends. Which can lead to more friends being created.Its great that you are being yourself, and you should carry on being yourself. Don’t change yourself for others. You shouldn’t rush into friendships, which could break in months.It won’t be genuine. You need to be patient, and wait for people who are like you, understand you, appreciate you. Patience is the key, I know its tough right now. But you will make friends soon, to want friends you need to be a friend yourself. Meaning, you may think you are approachable, but maybe you aren’t. And that’s what is putting people off. How do you present yourself to new people? You may be scaring people off. Maybe you’re not showing interest in other people. You should examine your communication facts, how do you speak to people? Do you just talk about yourself? Maybe not enough about yourself? Developing a bond with someone takes time, you have to be patience, once again. It can be frustrating, but don’t give up on making friends once yet! You must enjoy casual acquaintances, before you find that right friend. Believe me, you are not alone. There are many other people who are feeling just the same way as you, you need to look harder. Go talk to that weird kid, yknow the one who smells like cheese? Or that nerdy girl, who eats with her imaginary friend? I’m sure they have stories to share. Meanwhile, just sit back and go along with the flow. Good things happen to those who wait. 

Good Luck!

Hello there.

So the cute guy you like isn’t interested in you? Let’s start off with the basics, do you even talk to him? does he even know who are you? do you even know who he is? I’m just going to put it bluntly, grow some balls. Go talk to him! It may be hard, but you want to forward this relationship right? You can talk to him about anything. Whether, it may be his favorite sport, a TV programme, a movie, a band, an actor. You may realize you have something in common. And once you’ve grasped that, you hold on to it and take advantage of that hobby, or whatever you both have common in. If it was a band, go to a concert together. If it was an actor, go watch a movie with that actor in it. Get a closer bond to him. And then a friendship will form. Don’t be to desperate, don’t believe you are in love with him. Don’t act to needy, and knowledgeable, like pretending you like football when you really don’t.  you’re just infatuated with his appearance? I gotta say, most people only take genuine interest in people who are physically attractive, and thats ok. All humans are pretty superficial, but you should follow the steps I told you, and take the time to know him as a person. And if he actually sucks, then you need to get out xD You need to be friends with him first,as you’re learning his interests, become his buddy. Act relaxed around him.Yet, don’t slip into that ‘’oh shes cool, just a friend. I could never go out with her! ewwww!’’ When you act like a bro, and he thinks of you as a guy friend who’s actually a female. You need to show a slight feminine side too (however, if this is not you, don’t go for him, you need to still be you as a person, who you are. don’t pretend to be someone you’re not) Don’t be overly flirtatious, and scare him away all of a sudden. Give him time, maybe he needs to sort out his feelings. Leave him alone for a bit and wait for him to talk to you.Lastly, if he still doesn’t like you. you might as well accept it. If you are dwelling over the same guy for more then a couple of months, give it up. He doesn’t like you, but that doesn’t mean you aren’t good enough. It just means he’s not good enough for you. Don’t spend your time chasing a guy who isn’t interested in you. You will just be wasting time, when you could be meeting other people, people who are genuinely interested in you. Open your eyes, and see there will be many guys available for you. Some things are not meant to be.

Fear is a funny thing; it can motivate you so you do things that seem impossible or completely immobilize you so that you're frozen in time and you don’t really have a choice in the matter, However the absence of fear is even more so because it can make you brave or it can make you reckless, I'm not even sure if you have a choice in that matter either. Tom was currently immobilized; My friend who has kept me going through the rain, the mud and the cold. The man that made the front line feel a little bit like home every time he makes a joke or brings me a brew. I can see the fear etched into his eyes between the blue, its dark and controlling. He has wide eyes, his face so white that he doesn’t even look like Tom just a hollowed-out version. I don’t think in all the months we have been in Belgium he has responded like this. He is one of the bravest men I know, first over the wall and the last one back but this is unknown, it’s fresh and he can’t move but he has too. He needs to move quickly. 

My current absence of fear was also new. I’ve been terrified from the moment the war was announced, it took the wind out of me. Ever since I've felt completely out of my depth like a small boy looking for his mother in a crowd, panicked and alone. In this moment, I felt calm and focused, a new layer of confidence cloaked me. When I looked into Tom’s eyes, I felt fearless and protective. I needed Tom and he really needed me right now. The thick mustard colour was creeping up on us now, doing its deadly dance across the no man's land, through the wire and tipping into the trench effortlessly, the wire was meant to help keep the danger out but this is different. There is no keeping this out, its relentless, an unstoppable force devised by the Germans. 

I grabbed Toms jacket, my hand instantly getting wet, his heart racing underneath. “We have to run now, Tom”. Nothing, not even a flicker in his eye. He wasn’t moving unless I move for him, I needed to be his legs. “Give me this” I demand as I grab his rifle tossing it aside, they are useless against what’s out there. “Get on my back” I'm panicked now but again nothing. Thankfully he is small and I am fit. All my years playing rugby have made my body strong and robust. I could take a hit and keep going, lifting a fully grown man was effortless when you can tackle them running at full speed. 

After a few minutes running every step felt like I was on fire, I’m pushing my body to the absolute limit. My legs are screaming for me to slow down and so is my heart and lungs. The trenches are a maze designed to confuse the enemy if they were to breech them and to stop artillery shells from being able it destroys large parts. This done by having multiple corners and turns which is fine unless the enemy is currently an unknown drifting slowly like smoke. All the corners now just slow me down rather than protect me.  

It feels like I've been running forever but the substance which I can only assume is some forum of gas is still right behind me. As I turn a corner it was there, filling every void in front of us and as I turn to go back its there again. I must have messed up, made a wrong turn somewhere. This mistake will most likely cost us our lives. Now the fear is creeping in, a lot quicker than the gas. I stand for a moment wishing I was somewhere else; home has never felt so far away.  

Hello.

First of all, I’d like to say, don’t label yourself if you are so unsure. If you’re gay fine, tell people your gay. However, if you don’t know what to say to people when they ask, just say ‘’i like who i like’’ Don’t be so caught up in all these labels, they don’t define you.

Secondly, you finding women attractive, doesn’t necessarily mean you like them. I know plenty of my friends who are straight, and they find some women attractive but that doesn’t mean they want to sleep with them. I don’t know what you are feeling, but I can tell you that finding some people attractive, could just mean you are appreciating their beauty. As you have stated, ‘’I don’t like vagina’s’’ I don’t think you want to sleep with a woman.

Thirdly, you have said ‘’I don’t like penises and vagina’s’’.  Maybe this means, you prefer in a relationship romantically? You are not sexually attracted to men or women?

Lastly, maybe you should ‘’experimenting’’ . I don’t know if you have before, and if you have, try again. It could give you some kind of closure.  

I wish you good luck!