#gingergonnaginge

I don’t know how helpful this is, but I use “going out for ice cream” for this. You know, it’s not a meal or anything serious

I mean this is the best most closest approach and it also allows you to have ice cream which is always good; it’s what I would use if I went on dates for sure. but it doesn’t satisfy my central gripe here, which is that there is no widely-recognized shorthand for “let’s do something that’s low-pressure for both of us and where I don’t expect you to go out of your way to try and impress me because obviously I already like you, so let’s just chat.” it’s a cultural lacuna brought on in the weirdest way and I never realized until just now that we haven’t ever truly filled it?  

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Ooooh I second ginger’s comment Also I hear “go and NCMO” is fun BYU slang that everyone loves

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Not that I get asked out much either way, but I just make myself very vocal about my personal dating policy to do only casual dating until I feel like I could go steady. I’m lucky that I’ve managed to meet dudes who also prefer casual dating.

spouse goals

HMMMM YES

whatupwitches said: bae sounds neutral enough? idk. ‘bae goals’ kinda sounds like bagels in my head tho

BAEGELS IS PERFECT

gingergonnaginge said: spouse goals?

you remind me of Dottie from agent carter !

I’m not going to rattle off a list of interests we need to have in common because I've been in enough relationships to know that having a mutual appreciation of Doctor Who and Motion City Soundtrack does not necessarily mean that a relationship is going to be a healthy one. I don’t have definite expectations in regards to personality because I’m not the same person I was ten years ago or ten days ago or ten minutes ago. I’ve changed and I will change and so will she.

I have no idea how we’re going to meet, because planning that out when you still have no idea where you’ll be five years from now is bordering on idiotic. Maybe she’ll be a single mom and I’ll be a washed-up English professor and we’ll meet at a rainy bus station when she offers to share her umbrella. Maybe we've known each other since elementary school but now only see each other on Facebook but next week we’ll run into each other at a gas station and I’ll ask her to eat ice cream with me. It will probably be neither of those things.

Another one of these, lookit that! :D

Rule 1: Post the rules.  Rule 2: Answer the questions the tagger set for you in their post, then make 11 new ones.  Rule 3: Tag 11 people and link them to your post.  Rule 4: Let them know you’ve tagged them.

I was tagged by sevendeadlyrabbits

1. Did you ever see a llama?  Yes!  I saw a ton last week

2. Which fictional characters do you crush on more often - heroes or villains? Not sure, I guess heroes because Captain America but Loki

3. Look outside.  Now describe the sky without using names of colors. It’s a dusty ocean-color with a splash or milk for clouds

4. Your favorite book and what it’s about?  I don’t have A favorite book, I have lots and it’s impossible but I love the I Am Not A Serial Killer series by Dan Wells it’s about a kid who has all of the markers for being a serial killer but he’s not and in each of three books he has to track one down it’S AWESOME

5. The biggest amount of money you’ve ever held in your hands? Not sure, a few hundred I think

6. Would you rather wear a dress or a suit? Dress!  I LOVE DRESSES

7. Which do you prefer, hardcover or paperback? ¿Porque no los dos?

8. Perfect marriage proposal? From the perfect man

9. Would rather get your dream job or marry your fav celebrity (can’t have both, sorry) Dream job because Jensen Ackles, Misha Collins, and Jared Padalecki are all happily married

10. What’s the most embarrassing thing you’ve ever said? I’ve said a lot of stupid things but I can’t remember all of them or any of them, honestly

11. Describe a perfect life.  Living with my husband in a cute house with our children, growing old together and watching our children grow in ways they never thought possible, serving others as we go along

My questions:

1. Who was the most attractive teacher you’ve ever had? 

2. What was the last thing you got grounded for?

3. Which sock do you put on first?

4. Is there something that all your love interests have had in common?

5. Do you have any strange phobias?

6. What is the most embarrassing dare you’ve ever done?

7. How many pillows do you sleep with?

8. What’s your favorite chick flick?

9. What’s the longest you’ve ever slept?

10.  Checkers or chess?

11. What’s your favorite accent?