#genderqueer stuff

He was quite approving of neopronouns such as ze/hir, ey/em, and so on, and when I explained that Early Modern English did, in fact, utilize the singular they/them, he accepted it despite his pouting at being proven incorrect.

That makes exactly one person who uses that argument whom I trust to do so in good faith.

Does he continue to do so despite his being proven wrong multiple times?

Yes.

trans women twirling in their dresses and being butch and having all kinds of sized breasts, giving cis women an opportunity to revel in the parts of their own selves that they feel connected to

understanding pleasure, not being afraid of bodies and what they can do 

top surgery scars redefining ideas about shame at “non-perfect” gender presentations and “ugliness,” because if scars are beautiful, they’re beautiful, and they shouldn’t be hidden away, and they say as much or as little about your gender as you want them to

body hair or lack of body hair, tall or short, shoulder width, size of your hands and feet, open and proud body non-conformity, the opportunity to revel in all the kinds of bodies that exist, rather than believe that any little imperfection according to limiting standards needs to be destroyed, hidden away, taken as a mark of inferiority of gender

femininity masculinity void new binaries lack of binaries fag gender dyke gender boi grrrl queer gender tethered or untethered to anything you want it to be, be your own body

creation of the self, theories about bodily autonomy that stretch across lines of transness/disability/race/sex/ethnicity, transition as something to be unafraid of, rather than desperately holding onto stagnant realities that can be changed if you’re brave enough and allow yourself to be inspired and to live, transitioning as you age, as we all do

social lines redrawn, new masculinities and femininities injected into the populace with hormones/joyful representations/different communal connections, no need to enforce correct gender behaviours, no need to be afraid of appearing weak, appearing loud, appearing wrong... 

Here’s some responses I’ve gotten:

“Please don’t transition. Please just stay a gay woman.” - My landlady

“You’ll be fine, you have the most amazing family!” - Family friend

“We love you but this is too hard for us to remember, especially your dad. Have more understanding for him.” - My mom

“I am with you forever. You are the best.” - My aunt (mom’s older sister)

“I’m so happy for you.” - My trans friend from high school

+ myriad outpourings of love, concern, and solidarity. This shit is crazy haha.

Okay I'm so sorry for replying so late, I finally found some time to do so! (in the train while going to Pride is a good time I think xD)

First of all I'm still learning too so what I say here is my own experience and feelings and might not apply to everyone! That's one of the things I noticed, there is sometimes different labels for the same thing, and some ppl view a label differently and that's okay.

According to google this is the definition of genderqueer :

a person who does not subscribe to conventional gender distinctions but identifies with neither, both, or a combination of male and female genders.

So it basically is kinda the same as non-binary, and I think it's supposed to fall under the non-binary umbrella.

Now, why did I pick genderqueer and not nb?

I really like the term genderqueer because it's more vague to me and can encompass more identities. I use the litteral meaning of the word : gender and queer. I most of the time feel okay with being a girl (hence why I don't really use transgender or nb to define myself) but I don't exactly fit feminine standards (my haircut, clothes...). I also love when ppl mistake me for a boy, and it kinda makes me feel powerful to pass as a boy while being technically a girl. Tho there are times when I kinda want to shapeshift physically into a boy, and feeling my chest flat for the first time after putting on my binder was something. But that's not a permanent feeling.

So yeah I can't really tell if I'm trans, agender, genderfluid, or even non binary, but genderqueer feels like it fits in ways I can't completely explain

I hope this explanation helped a bit hahah, feel free to dm me or ask again if you have more questions