#framesonthewall

I was tagged by @framesonthewall Thank you :)

Rules: Tag 10 people you want to get to know better!

Relationship Status: Single

Favorite Color: Purple & Blue

Pets: 2 Cats

Last song i listened to: Separate Ways (Worlds Apart) by Journey 

Favorite tv show: Game Of Thrones, The Walking Dead & Stargate Atlantis

First Fandom: I think it was Star Wars 

Hobbies: Playing video games, reading, and shopping

Books im currently reading: House Of Leaves by Mark Z. Danielewski

Favorite Book: The Event Group series by David L. Goleman

Worst thing you’ve ever eaten/tasted: For me personally it’s onions ( i hate them)

Favorite Place: New England (especially during the fall, and plus it’s home)

Shoutout to @framesonthewall for being one of the sweetest people in the fandom on Tumblr. I love her art and her fics, and she’s just super nice in general!

Picture by Admin Kayla.

I think the term may have a very limited relevance and usefullness - for example, if you use it  IN A PRIVATE CONVERSATION. So if I talked to a female friend and wanted to describe a certain kind of conversation with a man who I felt took a condescending stance just because I was a woman, I might use it as a shortcut. 

But even then, I’d still have to doubt my own perception, I’d have to ask myself whether I wasn’t overreacting. And you are absolutely right, it’s not a thing unique to men, and it’s also not unique to men interacting with women.

I mean, I could easily say, I have this colleague, who Andrew-splains the world to everyone, and a sister, who Wendy-splains everything about the educations system, and so on. Some people have this missionary zeal, you know. Or my friend who thought she had to tell me everything about animal health after I’d worked as a vet’s assistant for year, Carol-splaining as she sometimes does. 

If I feel someone is patronizing or condescending, and I think I need to call him or her out on it, it would use these exact terms, not “mansplaining”, especially because I want to avoid stepping into the sexism trap myself.

And using this term in a discussion to dismiss the opponent’s arguments - no matter how often they’ve been refuted, no matter how stupid I think they are - is just an evasion tactic. It’s lazy. It’s dishonest, because it’s not tackling the argument, it just says, I can’t be bothered to come up with a reply. 

Wow that was a lot of bad luck for one day D: Hope that means it's all used up now! I wish you lovely days for the rest of the week!