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"From one perspective, these and the myriad comparable scenarios like them that we face every day are just circumstances that need to be navigated so we get to where we want to be going and not somewhere else. But from a Mussar perspective, these sorts of situations are tests. Wherever life presents a choice you have to make, you face a test that can reveal to you (and very often to the world) something about the middot that feature on our personal spiritual curriculum.

"...There is a middah called dan l'khaf zechut which is very hard to translate into English but which comes into play when you see behaviour that you almost instinctively judge to be unworthy, but then, instead of condemning the person, you allow that there may be other factors at work that account for why the person is doing what they are doing and, you know what, you are not omniscient. Some of the texts on dan l'khaf zechut encourage us to get creative in coming up with a scenario that explains or excuses the behaviour, rather than indulging our primitive instinct to condemn everyone who doesn't do things the way we think they should."

https://www.alanmorinis.com/p/that-curriculum-of-yours