#feb 25

The thing about getting married after only knowing someone for like a year vs the idea that you magically know someone really well after like 3-5 years is. As someone who's been with my partner for 16 years (and married for 12), you still don't know anyone at 5 years as much as you think you do--and people are continuously in a state of change. That's pretty much the nature of being a person. YOU will change over the years. This isn't me saying that you should wait like 12 years to marry or anything, I'm saying that even when you wait a few years there is no guarantee that you know them as much as you think, or that you won't both change, or that you will still be compatible in the long run. Unfortunately every marriage is a gamble and you're just trying to get the best betting odds, but there's a reason that more than half of marriages end in divorce.