Meaning of "I want a man who is [dream checklist]"
This comes up often in discussion: some woman says that the she wants a sexual relationship with a man who has some qualities, for example "interesting, relaxed, romantic", and inexperienced men take that literally and try to interest her in them by demonstrating how they are "interesting, relaxed, romantic".
That may be very misguided because there is an unspoken premise: "I want a man who [turns me on and ideally as a bonus also] is [dream checklist]". The "turns me on" premise is not negotiable, and the additional "also is [dream checklist]" is very negotiable. In particular usually what is listed in the "[dream checklist]" is not what turns on the woman who makes the checklist.
Many women don't add explicitly the premise "turns me on" in part because they are hypocrites, but in most part because they regard it as obvious: having a sexual relationship with someone who does not turn them on is so disgusting for them, even if he "also is [dream checklist]", so it does not need to be said.
Conversely most women will prefer a man who "turns me on" more but not "also is [dream checklist]" over a man who "also is [dream checklist]" but turns them on less than the other.
And what turns on most women is the same characteristic: evidence, direct or indirect, that a man is naturally successful at pumping and dumping women hotter than she is (that is, he is out of her league), because that man is likely to give her sons that outbreed other men's sons and thus give her a higher number of grandchildren, spreading her genes faster than other women.