#everydaylessons

A while back, I brought home a tiny indoor plant. The shopkeeper promised, “Very easy to grow… it becomes beautiful!”

Well, after three weeks of staring at it, I suspected I had been scammed. Nothing happened. No new leaves. Just a lonely green stick sitting there like it was on a life-long meditation retreat.

Every morning I’d check on it like a worried parent: “Hello? Are you planning to do anything this decade?”

I even tried motivational speaking: “You can do this. Grow.”

Still nothing.

Then—completely out of nowhere—one random morning, a bright little green leaf popped out as if the plant suddenly remembered it had a job.

That’s when it hit me: Some things don’t grow on our schedule. They grow when their moment arrives.

We humans love speed. Instant noodles. Instant payments. Instant photo filters that give us perfect skin.

But life? Life doesn’t always give instant results.

We’re wired to crave answers, timelines, explanations—yet so often we’re stuck in the waiting season, wondering why nothing is changing.

But the truth is simple: What is meant to bloom will bloom, but only at the right time. Not when we panic. Not when we complain. Not when we tap the pot and beg for progress.

Just like my stubborn little plant, there’s growth happening quietly beneath the surface—growth we can’t see yet.

And when the right moment comes, it shows up beautifully, effortlessly, and always with perfect timing.

So if your life currently feels like a pot of soil that refuses to sprout, don’t lose heart. Something is developing. Something is preparing. Something is on its way.

The other day I was out running with friends. It was a beautiful day to be out.

We were doing a short run and were about 1/4 mile away from our target distance for the day. Then we crossed paths with a couple of people in front of the state house, one of which I consider to be a friend of mine. We said some hellos on the way by and planned to loop back around after finishing to chat.

The two friends I was running with are both interning in the area from larger cities. One from another country in the EU and the other from a large US city. Since they have been visiting, I have been trying to introduce them to cool people in the community, show them around and find fun stuff to bring them to.

I introduced both of my two younger friends that are visiting to my friend we passed by who is on the older side. They had some quick conversation and before I knew it, the older friend was pitching my fellow young friends on staying in NH. It was good for him to do this as we need to start retaining and attracting more young people to NH or we will see some serious problems.

Unfortunately he started to pitch the both of them on staying here before really learning much about them and about their experience here.

He had the best of intentions although he did not know what they have enjoyed in their time here and what they have not enjoyed. He did not understand what they found to work well here and what struggles they were facing as young people in the area. The conversation was good but toward the end I mentioned to my friend that he needs to rework his pitch a little. 

We parted ways. The three of us did our cool down walk to the gym where we started and discussed what it has been like to live here as a young person.

My take away from this experience was that it is really important to understand your audience before launching into a pitch of any kind. There are plenty of good things to say but if they do not align with your audience, it is likely to not be received well. Take the time to ask qualifying questions. Learn about people. Build a relationship before starting to sell them. Be prepared to show them the benefits they want or offer a solution to their problems.

There's one thing that people often prioritize during relationships that they shouldn't. I understand the whole care aspect and the fear of inflicting hurt onto another - but really whoever you end up future WILL hurt you at some point or another. And whoever he/she will end up with WILL hurt him/her at some point or another. That's just a part of relationships and life. We are all human. So if that's what you're worried about. If you're worried about hurting him/her and that's why you don't want to even bother encountering anything with him/her

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