#ethics question

And so I said that there was no way in hell I could be friends with someone who could side with their kid after that, only to be lectured that “you should always take your kids side no matter what.”

So I’m asking tumblr,

*they as in the parent.

I found a giant epic fic, that I’ve read thru at least twice (no I mean it’s like 1M or something, it’s giant), that vanished everywhere except the fabulous Internet Archive. And I want to put it on AO3...but I do not know how to contact the author (the email that was saved on archive.org bounced, shockingly). And AO3 TOS do not allow that, quite reasonably. So I guess I’ll put it on my own server and do a link? Is that wildly unethical? I want to rescue this brilliant piece of writing...and I lean towards thinking that the site hosting this fic just fell apart, rather than this author wanting the fic to disappear, but heck, I don’t know what really happened. What do y’all think?

Suppose there was a multiversal traveler, capable of placing themselves anywhere in the infinite infinities that lie past the borders of our universe. Suppose they were infatuated with a person, but found their advances spurned.

Now, this traveler wouldn’t dream of manipulating their love, so instead they hop into a nearly-identical universe, one where every variable is the same except for one: the target of their affection has a personality slightly different from the first. This version of their lover is an entirely different person with no knowledge of or contact with their other-universe self.

So the traveler asks them if they return their affections. And the new person says no, and so they repeat the process until they find a Version of their love that returns their affection, while also being nearly the same person.

These are all separate people, mind you, not one person being brainwashed or overwritten. And they are not created by the traveler; they and their universes existed before the traveler even fell in love.

I am trying to get a group of friends together for New Year's Eve (10-12 people max). We wanted to do a roaring '20s themed dress-up get together to count down the new year, have some champagne and hors d'oeuvres, and maybe dance, but nothing raucous.

Many places say no parties and I understand that they don't want a 300 person house party happening where things can get broken. I totally get that. But as a small gathering of friends who just want to ring in the new year do I consider us a party?