I can't Our language is powerful. Our language creates and expresses our beliefs. Our language influences our actions. Our actions create our world and allow us to achieve our dreams. “I can’t” keeps us separated from those dreams. When we use the word “can't” that is the reality we create. Of course we can't quit smoking. We just said we couldn’t. Of course we can’t meditate. We just said we couldn’t. Of course we can’t accept, move on, and heal from pain or loss. We said we couldn’t. Stop saying I “can’t" and start saying "I can" and "I will." We use these words “I can’t" and "I’ll try" because it absolves us of responsibility in our life. Because if we spoke powerfully we would have to live powerfully. We would have to be accountable. And sometimes that’s scary. To actually succeed at what we dream and desire. We have no excuses to hide behind. We can't get far spouting words of can, do and will without people calling us out if we don't. This is actually another factor to drive us to succeed. Try telling everyone you know you are going to do something difficult. See if you sit on your ass and not care about the outcome. No. You’re gonna work your ass off to succeed and hold yourself accountable. If not to yourself then to others. Delete "can’t" from your vocabulary. It's of no use to you. It destroys our confidence and power because it destroys our belief in ourselves before we've even started. It's worse than "I'll try." Delete that word too. I have neither in my vocabulary anymore. If I commit to something "I do.” I make decisions powerfully. I have no time or desire to half heartedly try anything. If you are actually going to spend your hard earned and precious time doing anything then do it. 110%. Why waste our time to fail because of not fully committing to seeing it through to success. Commit ourselves to commit to the choices we make. Starting now. Take control of your life. Take responsibility of your life. Eliminate the disempowering words from your vocabulary and replace them with words of power, strength and confidence. And create the path to your dreams through the land of "I can.” Make powerful choices to create a powerful life worth living. Today I start my first Vipassana. It's over 100 hours of meditation over the course of 10 days. Although I meditate everyday, this is a year and a half of my daily meditations condensed into a week and a half. I've been wanting to "try" this silent retreat where you can't talk, make eye contact, read, write, listen to music or even exercise for its duration for the last 5 years since I was introduced to it by a friend. Although I wanted to "try" it I believed I "can't" meditate for that long especially with no stimulus on my breaks. So I heard the stories from friends over the years and would always retort. "Some day I'll try it too" Not very powerful words. At the start of this year I decided to live powerfully and fully commit to any choices I desired. To stop using I "can't" and I'll "try." I made the commitment that I would "do" Vipassana this year and that time has come. Although I know it will be a challenge and a significant success over my mind to complete I know that, "I can handle this" and "I can do this" I'm about to go dark for the next 10 days with the belief "I can, do anything", with commitment and practice. Is your internal and external dialog empowering or disempowering you? Where do you notice you use “I can’t” or "I’ll try” too regularly in your life? What would happen if you deleted those words from your vocabulary? How would that change your life?
