#easily*

Like in the second last song where Psynwav is "breakin' my back just to know my name", the latter choruses feature these bright pops of "that's not my name! That's not my name!" that's like - that's the inner girl stepping up to reject her deadname and put herself forward to find and claim her new name. The rest of the lyrics matter, but it's those sharp pops of female vocals that's just like. there she is. That's Psynwav shining through.

And one of the most prominent examples of this is in the second song, which is a mix of Rockstar by Nickelback, We Will Rock You by Queen and Danger Zone by Kenny Loggins set to the tune of Turning Japanese. Because near the end of the song, the first verse of All The Things She Said by t.a.t.u comes in - "I'm in serious shit, I feel totally lost, if I'm asking for help it's only because / being with you has opened my eyes, how could I have believed such a perfect surprise". That's actually the impetus to this thought of like - when the vocals are coming from a woman, that's the inner trans self speaking to the listener, while the male vocals cover a lot of emotional repression and telling the story of how Psynwav got through the emotional ups and downs of her transition.

And the emotional crescendo of this song is where all of the songs are building up to a fever pitch, Kenny Loggins goes high like "Highway to the DANGER ZOOOOONE" and t.a.t.u cut in partway through to go

THIS IS NOT ENOUGH!!!!!!

What "relationships take work" DOES mean:

you will not know your partner's communication style immediately and you will need to invest time into learning it and how to best meet each other halfway

you will eventually face times where you need to work out big problems together such as money, job stress or household stress

you will have times where one partner may be struggling and the other partner will need to be supportive & uplift them

disagreements or failures of communication will most likely happen and you will have to figure out how to satisfyingly resolve conflict for you both

you will eventually start making decisions based on what benefits you both instead of just what would benefit you personally

What "relationships takes work" DOES NOT mean:

You should spend more time feeling tired or frustrated with your partner than satisfied, enriched or supported by their presence

You must always put your partner before yourself and never make any decisions you think do more for you than your partner

Having regular, vehement and unpleasant arguments is normal

One partner should spend all their time supporting the other

It is your job to support your partner in ways you're not capable of or you should be the only one who supports your partner

You should invest all your time or emotional energy into trying to salvage a relationship if it gives you no benefit, enrichment or emotional fulfillment