So my baby boy (3 1/2 years old) was recently diagnosed with autism and his doctor wants to set up a therapy plan for him. I don't think this is necessary considering he's only 3! I'm also afraid it'll be ABA type therapy which I am NOT okay with. Do you think therapy is necessary for autistic kids?
This answer ended up getting long because I had a lot more to say than I thought I would.
I hate the notion that autism = automatic therapy. I’m gonna go on a tangent here, but stay with me because I’m making a point. I’m gonna try to be inclusive of trans/nb people here by saying “person” instead of “woman”.
Saying autistic = massive therapy right now is awful! I’m glad you see that!Â
You know what that’s like? That’s like hospitals automatically hooking a person in labor up to pitocin because they’re not dilating fast enough according to some chart of averages. (I know this because I researched childbirth for fanfics; I’ve never had sex let alone given birth myself!)
Well guess what? Pitocin makes contractions hurt worse, so here comes the epidural and now the person in labor can’t walk around anymore. Lying down and being unable to change positions to help their contractions shift the baby around means the baby may end up in a less than optimal position for delivery. The pitocin contractions may prevent blood flow to the placenta, which will cause heartrate decelerations and put baby is in distress. (Contractions make the baby “hold its breath” since the tightened uterus squeezes all the blood vessels off. Period cramps are the same thing as labor contractions on a small scale.) One problem leads to another, which means more medical stuff is needed. It’s called a cascade of interventions, and sometimes they lead to vacuum or forceps delivery or a C-section. All that stuff wouldn’t be necessary if the person was left to labor at their own pace and both the person in labor and the baby are okay.Â
Birth has been turned into a medical procedure instead of a natural bodily function. We’re taught to fear it as something agonizingly painful and a disaster unless a doctor is present. That’s NOT what birth is! Okay, sometimes labor and birth becomes a medical issue and interventions are necessary, but not every person who goes to the hospital needs their labor augmented.
Autism has been turned into an emergency, too. People are taught to fear it as something horrible that will ruin their life. You can thank Autism Speaks and autism parents who broadcast their autistic child’s worst moments for all to see for that fear mongering. (They’re always autistic people who need lots of daily help, their behavioral communication [self-injurious behavior, elopement, loud vocalizations] get treated like a crisis and they’re talked about like they aren’t even people.)
So they get the kid into therapy, the kid starts acting out because their natural coping methods are taken away, so they need more interventions to extinguish those behaviors. On and on until the kid feels whittled down to nothing. They’re shown their natural way of being is wrong and they have to be what the world wants because what they want doesn’t matter. The kicker is they’re too young to understand what’s happening to them, they just know it feels bad! If you get them young enough they may not remember what they were like pre-therapy– and I don’t know whether to say they’re lucky or to feel sorry for them because they never got a choice.
When kids are really young there’s no way to know what their abilities are. I’m also kind of bothered that people get diagnosed so young. Sometimes kids have developmental delays but aren’t really autistic, so if therapy catches them up it’s suddenly “we cured our kid’s autism!” like Toni Braxton, which then harms people who are really autistic.
Now, that doesn’t mean every kid wasn’t autistic. Here’s the catch: sometimes therapy will train autism behaviors out of legit autistic people, which is harmful too as you know.Â
But I think some of the really little kids (like 18months, 2yrs old or 3yrs old) who come out of therapy looking and acting NT weren’t really autistic to begin with. A baby who doesn’t make eye contact might have trouble with their vision, too. It could be their autism makes visual processing very difficult. But what if it’s not that? What if they have some sight, but maybe it’s not very useful and they’re legally blind? Well oops what if that was the reason all along and not autism? (And sometimes you get autistic people who are also blind, either totally or legally, like my online friend Tiffany @tiffanygrayslife.)
[Sarcasm] But anything to get them in therapy early to hide all signs of that Shameful Evil Autism oh noes! [/Sarcasm]
It took till I was 15 to get diagnosed in 1995 and I turned out okay without “early interventions” despite horrendous bullying related to my autistic traits. I flew under the radar for a long time, although when I look back my autism was always as obvious as spots on a cheetah.Â
But [Sarcasm] “girls don’t get autism” so… [/Sarcasm]
Therapy should aid a child, not force them into a box they don’t fit in. I’ve heard good things about Floortime(Floor Time?) therapy for autistic kids thanks to @neurowonderful so if therapy becomes a “must” then I suggest that.
Sorry about the rambly reply. My brain is scrambled eggs today!