#dysphora

Man, dysphora sucks... getting seen by my mum and then getting harassed by teenagers while wanting to get to the train...

I was kinda baby-trans'ing it with a mini-skirt and a shirt showing a lil bit of tummy and was hit with like 8 16-19 year olds going "hey sir, can I ask you a question sir", which has made me just feel vile.

I wore it becasue this dress here doesn't fit me proper, my ribcage doesn't allow the zip to close, i need to alter it to work but atm it just sucks i can't wear it because it is one of the few dresses at the moment I would feel pretty in...

So here’s my two cents on the “do you need to have dysphoria to be trans” debate.

People in and out of the community seem to have a problem understanding what dysphoria essentially is. It’s the feeling of not being the gender you were assigned as birth or feeling a disconnect between you and your sex. That’s all.

People in the community have this issue that they’re equating DYSPHORIA with DYSMORPHIA. They are two separate psychological phenomenon and while they can intersect and interact, they are not bound exclusively.

Dysmorphia, particularly body dysmorphia, refers to feeling like you are in the wrong body, have the wrong parts, or otherwise are physically incongruent with your perception of self.

That being said, in order to be transgender, you do NOT have to have DYSMORPHIA. You can be perfectly fine in your body and gender presentation and still be trans. However, if you do not feel DYSPHORIA, the feeling of being a gender other than what you were assigned at birth, then you are not trans, you are cis.

I just wanna be a goat :(

why am I stuck in this naked upright shell :(

humans are so diverse, and most people only ever have their experiences to go off of, that it is so hard to tell if someone is lying about something or just having a different experience. for example:

i have gender dysphoria! i have strong top dysphoria, mild bottom dysphoria, dysphoria about my hips and my face looking too feminine, etc. however, i do not feel as much dysphoria in cosplay. if i cosplay jester, or jade harley, or vex’ahlia, i can sort of convince my brain that i’m only pretending to be a girl, and i’m not actually being one. therefore, no dysphoria. it’s cosplay. it’s all fake.

but someone might look at my icon or my cosplay pictures and see that i’m AFAB nonbinary, and convince themselves that i’m faking being trans, or that i’m faking my dysphoria, because maybe their dysphoria is just as bad in cosplay, or someone else they know has bad dysphoria in cosplay. even someone that is AFAB and dresses very feminine and goes by their birthname and she/her pronouns might have dysphoria! maybe her dysphoria gets worse when she tries to present more masculine because even when it feels like she’s trying really hard to look like a guy she still gets called ma’am in stores. maybe that’s how she copes.