#dyke4fag

Quim Issue #5 (1994)

[image description: a cropped image of a magazine in black and white. at the top is the question “how can you be a lesbian and sleep with boys?” echoed by the words “call yourself a lesbian.” below this are answers with different text formatting for different responses. a black and white cartoon in the bottom right corner shows two people in skirts saying “what on earth was that about?” “haven’t a clue.”

the responses read:

I hardly ever actually slept with them. Of course you can and many of us do. Having sex with men is a diversion I allow myself every 6-8 years. They become more exciting by being forbidden.

I am a lesbian because of the people I choose to live my life with. Occasionally fucking a man doesn’t change that.

I don’t, I call myself bisexual.

My lesbianism means that I am only physically, mentally and emotionally attracted to women. Though I have had good one-off sex with men in the past, that’s as far as it goes. As far as sexual relationships go they don’t feature.

The few occasions I have done it I have had no problem dealing with it at all. I know I’m a dyke – and one of the benefits of being a dyke is having the choice and occasion to do what the hell you like. If I want to shag a bloke then I will (if nothing else to remind me why I never really wanted to sleep with them in the first place!)

If I was interested enough to commit myself to getting good sex with men, there’d come a point when I’d call myself bi-sexual. Anything I engage and put myself into is something to be proud of, so I’d be proud to call myself bi-sexual. But I don’t feel proud of what I have ever felt or done with men in bed, so the label doesn’t apply.

Easy. I am a lesbian and I sleep with guys every once in a while. Which I know many dykes do but they’re just too scared to admit thinking that women will see them in a different light. Most dykes get the 7 year itch even when they don’t admit it to themselves.

I can’t see a way of sleeping with a man/men on a regular basis and calling yourself a lesbian.

Easy.

I can fall in love with women in a matter of minutes. I have never fallen for a man in the same way.

I feel honoured you're asking me this question!

I think everyone should be allowed to masturbate to any porn they like, and it's still gay porn, so.

That being said, I think it's the perfect gateway drug.

It's still gay porn. The lesbian watching it doesn't have to imagine herself involved with any of them, doesn't have to imagine them touching her gold star pussy. Quite the opposite. They are gay porn stars, chances are they wouldn't even be into her!

It feels safe. Safe enough she can allow herself to relate to them. Maybe she's a top and can relate to the guy drilling the other's ass. Maybe she's a bottom and can relate to the one getting fucked.

In any case, she'll rub her wet needy dyke cunt to male bodies and sounds. She'll probably cum, maybe even squirt, while the men on the screen shoot ropes of cum.

Maybe she'll get hooked right away. Maybe she'll go back to lesbian porn for a while. But sooner or later, she'll look at two men rimming each other. It's kinda like eating pussy. Besides, everyone can eat ass!

But then she'll get recommended blowjob videos. And she'll click on them. Close-ups of cocks and balls and mouths and cumshots. The sounds of men moaning and groaning.