#dualist

This post is for those who are sick of the current paradigm and want something better than the pseudo philosophy people run with these days. Many of us have dysphoria and internal identities and perceptions of a body that is not our literal one.

I desisted from being FTM, 2S, and nonbinary, spent the majority of my teen and adult life under some part of the trans umbrella, and I am here to tell you that you can be happy and you will be happier than embracing the trans paradigm, which is pretty much the last thing we should be entertaining or listening to. I wanted to die because of dysphoria for half my life. Seeing myself as trans almost killed me and made my initial dysphoria issues worse.

I figured out how to cure myself, and it was very simple. It was called nonjudgmental acceptance. I used DBT techniques on the feelings and I eventually stopped feeling dysphoria. Now I just feel a sense of joy when I do creative projects or role play as my internal identities. It is all joy and no sorrow now. I also paired it with the philosophical idea of identity dualism.

I believe that my internal identity does not have to match my external identity, and that external identity cannot be claimed to be something untrue without being fraud. There is no such thing as transitioning to something you are literally not, but role playing (where you are honest it is a LARP and do not expect others to necessarily play along with you if they are not interested) or creative projects can be a healthy avenue of internal identity expression. By mindfully accepting and letting go of the incongruence, you no longer need the internal and external to match, and you can enjoy the existence of both.

Affirmation is fraud imposed on others. Affirmation, and the idea that trans people need it from others, is fundamentally unhealthy because that puts your locus of control outside of your hands. The way others perceive your identity is not yours to control because you have no right to someone's personal internal world. People do not feel good lying, and it is not okay to ask them to play along with your beliefs to the exclusion of theirs.

Your identity is dual, and the internal and external identities exist alongside each other in their own worlds - the world inside your head, and the world outside of it. Expecting these to match is a flawed and unrealistic expectation. They do not have to. You can be happy as a dualist.

People who embrace the trans movements are always left with an incomplete treatment. It does not bring the internal and external happiness that it claims to bring. That is because you and everyone around you knows that instead of living in peace with all parts of your body and mind, you decide reality is false and internal ideas (that were never meant to be taken literally outside of your mind) are real. The internal world is real only inside the mind - to think and act as though the external world must conform to it for happiness is simply not true and not healthy. The best outcome of this will never compare to the best outcome of my paradigm, because mine is honest and does not teach you unhealthy ways of looking at the world. The fraud of transition psychologically destroys the transitioner - because you can never escape the fact that you are lying to manage internal issues.

The people who suffer the most from trans movements are the trans people themselves. Always be kind to them even though they are hurting themselves.

Both the internal and external are real, but only in their particular plane of existence, and both must be celebrated (without sacrificing the other) for happiness. Transition is self harm.

I would extend these ideas to the alter human and otherkin movements, but they generally do not seek out transition or engage in harmful behaviors like the transgender and transid community supports. You absolutely can use the identity dualist label if you are trans or alter human in anyway.

Gerçekliği nasıl kavrarız? Rasyonalizm ve bilim sayesinde mi yoksa sezgilerimiz aracılığıyla mı?

Eğer cevabımız sezgiler olsaydı idealist bir bakış açısı ortaya koymuş olurduk. Tıpkı Fransız filozof Henri Bergson gibi... 

Bergson, pozitivizmin bilimsel iddialarını karşı çıkar ve insani-dini değerleri, düşünceleri -idealizm- daha önemli görür. Bu düşünceleriyle akla karşı gelenler olarak bilinen filozoflar arasında yerini almıştır. Kendisi karşıtların ilişkisine dayanan dualist bir bakış açısına sahiptir. 

Pumpkin Heads and Dualist are of the same Primeval race/stock as Hoarah Loux

From their similar size and seeming battlelust as well as the pumpkin heads and Dualist being former gladiators of the colosseums that were prevalent under Godfrey's rule. Also the fact that they seemed to have been ostracized by society after Hoarah became tarnished and was exiled.

ooof, my favorite huh, im assuming you mean bnha ocs and in which case its a bit of a tie between Minato, Akio and Miko it would be a four way tie otherwise but Kei is currently in prison so he couldn’t make it too the get together.

May Allah reward the person who made this. ✨

Black and white thinking can be called many things. Binary thinking. Dualistic thinking. Good or bad thinking. But it all adds up to the same thing. You only give yourself two categories one that represents good and one that represents bad. 

For me good and bad thinking really narrows the possibilities in the world let’s take an example: There is a 7 year old boy names Johnny. During recess one day he pushes a child named Jason.

Did Johnny do a good thing or a bad thing? I would argue Johnny did a bad thing.

Does Johnny make bad choices? Yes the evidence says that Johnny makes bad choices. 

Is Johnny bad? Now here is where black and white thinking gets hard. Calling a kid bad with this little information is hard. This is when we start to realize that maybe we don’t want to label Johnny with just these two categories that original questions were better? But this question for me brings up a lot of feelings.

Going along the same vein of how black and white thinking plays out when you try to interact with the world, let’s flush out Johnny’s story.

Johnny’s two moms have been fighting a lot. The night before the recess incident Johnny’s parent he calls Mom pushed his parent he calls Mama. Then the next morning Johnny’s family was running late to school. Johnny’s older sister was really stressed because this would be her 20th tardy and if she gets anymore she might not get to move forward in school. She was swear and yelling at everyone. When Johnny got to school he got in trouble for not having his library book and he was so hungry because he didn’t have a snack and skipped breakfast to save time. His best friend Suzanne laughed when the older kids were making fun of Johnny for having two Moms and Johnny was feeling really bad when Jason stole the ball from him during basketball. Johnny pushed Jason trying to get the ball back (sorta) but also just to get out some pain. 

Did Johnny do a good or a bad thing? With all that back story and the excuse that Johnny gives for why Jason got pushed it starts to get hard to even call the pushing hard. We know that violence is not a great too to get out pain and results in more conflict. But Johnny is 7 and having a hard time in life. If we narrow down on just the pushing and think about how it might have affected Jason someone who may not know Johnny’s back story we might still land on pushing another kid being bad. But even this simple of question gets a ton more complicated.

Does Johnny make bad choices? I mean probably not. Johnny probably is not in control of what his body is doing. He is hungry and stressed and 7 year old. He probably has very little memory of choosing to push anyone. He didn’t choose to be late or not eat food and even if he did he is 7. The choice to push was probably not the smoothest choice for Johnny to get what he needs but I would argue it wasn’t a choice.

Is Johnny bad? Now with the backstory this question because easier. No way Johnny is not bad. He is having a really hard time and is reacting to that in with some negative behaviors. 

What about Jason? This is where it gets tough. Jason probably has scraped knee and is feeling confused and sad. He was just playing the game and then he got hurt. That probably feels bad to him. He gets to think of these actions from Johnny as bad. For him no matter the backstory getting push to the ground is bad. It hurts and does not feel fair. 

So with all these questions and backstory we can see there are a lot more layers to this than the initial question of did Johnny do a good or bad thing. If we had just stopped there we may have never gotten to all the chaos of all parts of the this story. Sometimes that feels good to avoid that chaos, but does it feel good to Johnny or Jason? For the actual players in the story until needs are met and stories are discussed, very little goodness will happen. That is tough. Because that means as adults helping these kids in this situation we need to remember to ask all these questions in order to trick good and bad thinking into capturing all of this nuance. Or maybe if we could move out of good and bad thinking into a wider perspective maybe there is a better question that covers all of these questions in one.

Why did Johnny push Jason? What was Johnny feeling before and after pushing Jason? Jason how can we make you feel better?