This post is for those who are sick of the current paradigm and want something better than the pseudo philosophy people run with these days. Many of us have dysphoria and internal identities and perceptions of a body that is not our literal one.

I desisted from being FTM, 2S, and nonbinary, spent the majority of my teen and adult life under some part of the trans umbrella, and I am here to tell you that you can be happy and you will be happier than embracing the trans paradigm, which is pretty much the last thing we should be entertaining or listening to. I wanted to die because of dysphoria for half my life. Seeing myself as trans almost killed me and made my initial dysphoria issues worse.

I figured out how to cure myself, and it was very simple. It was called nonjudgmental acceptance. I used DBT techniques on the feelings and I eventually stopped feeling dysphoria. Now I just feel a sense of joy when I do creative projects or role play as my internal identities. It is all joy and no sorrow now. I also paired it with the philosophical idea of identity dualism.

I believe that my internal identity does not have to match my external identity, and that external identity cannot be claimed to be something untrue without being fraud. There is no such thing as transitioning to something you are literally not, but role playing (where you are honest it is a LARP and do not expect others to necessarily play along with you if they are not interested) or creative projects can be a healthy avenue of internal identity expression. By mindfully accepting and letting go of the incongruence, you no longer need the internal and external to match, and you can enjoy the existence of both.

Affirmation is fraud imposed on others. Affirmation, and the idea that trans people need it from others, is fundamentally unhealthy because that puts your locus of control outside of your hands. The way others perceive your identity is not yours to control because you have no right to someone's personal internal world. People do not feel good lying, and it is not okay to ask them to play along with your beliefs to the exclusion of theirs.

Your identity is dual, and the internal and external identities exist alongside each other in their own worlds - the world inside your head, and the world outside of it. Expecting these to match is a flawed and unrealistic expectation. They do not have to. You can be happy as a dualist.

People who embrace the trans movements are always left with an incomplete treatment. It does not bring the internal and external happiness that it claims to bring. That is because you and everyone around you knows that instead of living in peace with all parts of your body and mind, you decide reality is false and internal ideas (that were never meant to be taken literally outside of your mind) are real. The internal world is real only inside the mind - to think and act as though the external world must conform to it for happiness is simply not true and not healthy. The best outcome of this will never compare to the best outcome of my paradigm, because mine is honest and does not teach you unhealthy ways of looking at the world. The fraud of transition psychologically destroys the transitioner - because you can never escape the fact that you are lying to manage internal issues.

The people who suffer the most from trans movements are the trans people themselves. Always be kind to them even though they are hurting themselves.

Both the internal and external are real, but only in their particular plane of existence, and both must be celebrated (without sacrificing the other) for happiness. Transition is self harm.

I would extend these ideas to the alter human and otherkin movements, but they generally do not seek out transition or engage in harmful behaviors like the transgender and transid community supports. You absolutely can use the identity dualist label if you are trans or alter human in anyway.