#dropthet

So close, yet so far.

As expected, transwomen are calling this “TERF rhetoric” in the replies because they don’t like being reminded that misogyny is sex based.

We're told our genitals smell like fish, that "roast beef curtains," are hilarious and a sign that a woman is a sl*t, that our natural pubic hair is offensive. That periods are disgusting and shameful, and should be kept secret. We aren't even properly taught about our own anatomy- a lot of women don't know until later in life that the vulva and vagina are separate, and that the urethra is not the same opening as the vaginal opening.

There's hardly any research into female-specific medical conditions. Nearly 10% (1 in 10) women are afflicted with endometriosis, yet there's literally no research on what causes it. PCOS is also under-researched. It's all shoved under the rug, too stigmatised to be discussed.

While boys can talk freely about their dick and balls, the words "vagina" or "vulva," are still treated like a humiliating joke at best, and a vulgar obscenity at worst.

Men talk with pride about their genitals. To "grow a set" = to start acting tough and assertive. To "have big balls" = to be brave. "Big dick energy" = to be a charismatic "alpha" that commands attention.

Meanwhile, there are no positive cultural connotations regarding the vulva/vagina. Even "serving cunt" is used as a tongue-in-cheek memetic joke.

I think it's very predatory that shame, disgust and aversion about having a vagina/vulva is marketed as a sign that a girl/woman is dysphoric. That it should just be censored and called a "front hole" or a "bonus hole," to avoid the stigma. It's a cultural by-product of the crushing misogyny imbedded into society.

I see this person from behind, ahh it’s a woman- very tall, very lanky but so am I do who am I to judge? And then they speak, and turn around. Fml it’s a fucking TIM, and as soon as he sees me it’s like his only mission in life is to be friends with me.

At lunch I’m chatting to one of the keepers and then he pushes into the conversation. It’s pleasant at the beginning, we’re talking about video games and such- and then towards the end he just starts going off about how he’s “lonely” and “has no friends” in this pathetic, whimpery way. (His “female” voice is grating and sounds like a bad porno) I feel cornered, and eventually he asks for my insta, and tell me whyyyyy did I give it to him???

anyway, I get up after lunch and he starts to follow me like a lost puppy, just aimlessly walking behind me as I rush to find anything to do. I get some cleaning supplies and I’m gonna go clean the rails around the zoo- and he asks me if he can help.

I say- and now this man still does not take the fucking hint- “oh, I think this job is more of a solo thing” the whole time my body language is guarded and I look visibly uncomfortable, but I don’t have the guts to say “hey yeah, don’t expect anything from this, I can’t be your friend” (I end up saying it over insta though, and now he’s left me on read. It’s funny cause he was like “also I’m a trans woman if you couldn’t tell” and I wanted to say “yeah, it’s clear as fucking day buddy, you look like Lilly tino’s labubu.”)