#double problems

(2/2) want the best for my host. one of the headmates is also very argumentative with me, and she often suggests impractical ways to "deal" with the double that's giving my host trouble. it's been very exhausting. thank you

Well, I suppose that depends on what’s practical to do. If a double is what’s causing all this trouble, you could try blocking the double and keeping the host away from that person. If you know of any tactics of helping people “come back” from dissociation, you might be able to help the host through a dissociation episode that way. 

(A quote from me on a different post about helping with dissociation - “Unfortunately I don’t know firsthand how to help with dissociation, since I don’t usually have troubles with that ^^’ however, if you need help at all calming down from it, I looked up some things to help and suggestions that have helped someone else with dissociation include playing simple and repetitive games, causing yourself strong physical sensations (suggestions include putting ice on your face/holding ice, dancing, exercising, things like that), or doing things like  watching TV or reading to help you step away from the situation and calm down. The article said that eating or taking a nap can also help if you’re tired or haven’t eaten in a while beforehand.”)

If you want to and your host allows it, you could also set up an agreement with her where, whenever she’s about to interact with a new blog, you could have her step back and take the front yourself to make sure they aren’t a double of whoever she dissociates when she sees doubles of. That might be safe, assuming she wouldn’t be able to see when you’re looking through or would be able to “look away” when you’re fronting.

All in all, be patient and figure out what your host is comfortable with and what’s practical to do. I have very little personal experience with dissociation, unfortunately, so if you need different/more specific advice or ideas, just send another message and I can try to help!

Idk if this was supposed to just be a vent, but either way, it’s gonna be okay, friend! If possible for you, try to tell the one liking your posts that you really don’t like doubles and would prefer if they stopped liking your personal posts - if that would cause you too much mental or emotional trouble, or they refuse to listen to you, don’t feel bad about blocking them! You have to look out for your mental and emotional health, and as long as you’re not going out of your way to say rude things to doubles, I’m sure people will understand. You’re valid, no matter what.

Unfortunately I don’t know firsthand how to help with dissociation, since I don’t usually have troubles with that ^^’ however, if you need help at all calming down from it, I looked up some things to help and suggestions that have helped someone else with dissociation include playing simple and repetitive games, causing yourself strong physical sensations (suggestions include putting ice on your face/holding ice, dancing, exercising, things like that), or doing things like  watching TV or reading to help you step away from the situation and calm down. The article said that eating or taking a nap can also help if you’re tired or haven’t eaten in a while beforehand.

Hopefully this helped at least a little!