It’s my responsibility to take care of my emotions when someone or something doesn’t turn out as expected. It’s fine for me to feel upset, hurt, angry, and sad, to grieve the loss of what could have been, but it would never be right for me to take that out on the one whom or which I’d idealized.
It all comes from making false judgements, foolish assumptions. That’s why it’s best not to make them in the first place.
It would not be my responsibility had I been conned, tricked, or otherwise lied to or misled. Even the smartest, most capable people can be persuaded to believe something that isn’t true, especially if they lack of information someone or something claims to have and possibly be an expert on.
I am 100% against victim-blaming, regarding anything, of anyone. All crimes are the responsibility of their perpetrators. All of them. Even if the victims put themselves in a position that risked it, it is not their fault. Not ever. That is a point I will never back down from.
(To those who are now concerned for me after reading this, it is about something I saw on TV. Please, do not worry about me.)