In astrology, the asteroid Dejanira (157) sheds light on your vulnerabilities. It shows what you overgive, what you tolerate too much, or make yourself smaller to keep peace or avoid loss. To keep it simple, this asteroid can help you recognise points of imbalance in your relationships. When you become aware of them, this placement shifts from self-sacrifice into self-protection, teaching you where you need firmer limits and deeper self-worth.

💔 If you have Dejanira (157) in your 7th house, you might notice that in relationships, you start adjusting yourself without being asked. You may soften your tone, lower your standards, or convince yourself you’re "asking for too much", just to keep the peace. This may create an imbalance in your relationships, as you can become the dominated one.

💔 When your Dejanira is conjunct your Venus, love can feel like something you have to earn because you think you don't deserve it. You may overgive affection, over-explain your feelings, or stay loyal to people who give you half of what you give them.

💔 If your Dejanira squares your Saturn, you can feel heavy responsibility in relationships. You may stay because you feel obligated, guilty, or afraid of being seen as the one who "gave up". This does not apply to romantic relationships, but to friendships and family as well. You might feel trapped.

💔 When your Dejanira is opposite your Mars, power dynamics may become intense. You might attract partners who are dominant, reactive, or overpowering, and conflicts (Mars-related) can scare you because they may make you feel small.

💔 If your Dejanira is in your 12th house, you may not immediately see the pattern. You’re ignoring what hurts or what feels wrong because you can't see it clearly. Mindfulness and/or therapy could help shed light on these patterns and help understand them better.

💔 When your Dejanira makes a quincunx to your Pluto, the imbalance isn’t always obvious, but it feels consuming. You keep adjusting yourself to survive emotionally intense connections, even when they drain you.

Credits to @zclhs

👒People with Nessus (7066) and Dejanira (157) prominence evoke strong polarizing reactions from people i.e. The biggest boy group ‘BTS,’ have almost all of the members with prominent Nessus or Dejanira

RM: Nessus conjunct Jupiter, Dejanira conjunct Uranus

Suga: Dejanira conjunct Pluto

Jhope: Nessus conjunct Jupiter, Dejanira conjunct Uranus

Jimin: Nessus conjunct Mars/Pluto

V: Nessus conjunct Pluto

Jungkook: Dejanira conjunct Mars

Nessus and Dejanira are abuse and victimization asteroids so this means BTS are victims of strong hate. Their fans are also super overprotective because they see BTS as victims of mistreatment

👒There’s something striking about the hair of those with circe (34) conjunct personal planets, especially if it’s curly

👒Medusa (149) conjunct sun has an extremely piercing gaze, literally “I will turn you into stone”

👒Taurus venus are some of the most patient and attentive people i.e. they’re the people in a group setting who *truly* listens attentively and don’t interrupt until you’re done talking. Taurus moon in the venus persona chart as well

👒Sun square Pluto has such a smug “you haven’t figured me out yet huh” look and I kinda love it

👒Aries moon in the mars persona chart is so sexy, and scary when they’re mad

👒People with Moon-Venus hard aspects tend to feel dissatisfied a lot people what they want doesn’t align with what they feel i.e. they may be overspenders, or dissatisfied in relationships

Nessus Abducting Dejanira, Giuseppe Girometti, 1815-25

Dejanira (Autumn)

Artist: Gustave Moreau (French, 1826-1898)

Date: 1872–1873

Medium: Oil on panel

Collection: The J. Paul Getty Museum, Los Angeles, CA, United States

Description

Dejanira in Natal Houses

1st House (House of Self): Dejanira in the 1st house brings the themes of victimization and vulnerability into the individual's self-expression and identity. They may have experienced past wounds that influence their self-image and may develop self-protective measures.

2nd House (House of Possessions): Dejanira in the 2nd house can indicate a sense of vulnerability and victimization around matters of personal resources and self-worth. They may need to work on developing healthy boundaries and valuing their own worth.

3rd House (House of Communication): Dejanira in the 3rd house may bring experiences of victimization or power dynamics in communication. They may need to assert themselves effectively and set boundaries in their interactions with others.

4th House (House of Home and Family): Dejanira in the 4th house suggests experiences of vulnerability and victimization within the family or home environment. Healing may involve establishing a sense of emotional security and creating healthy boundaries within the family dynamic.

5th House (House of Creativity and Romance): Dejanira in the 5th house may indicate vulnerabilities and power dynamics in matters of self-expression and romantic relationships. They may need to assert their boundaries and seek relationships that are respectful and supportive.

6th House (House of Health and Service): Dejanira in the 6th house can manifest as a sense of victimization or power struggles in the realm of work, health, or daily routines. Healing may involve establishing healthy boundaries and practices of self-care.

7th House (House of Partnerships): Dejanira in the 7th house brings the themes of victimization and power dynamics into relationships. They may attract partners who trigger past wounds, and healing involves setting healthy boundaries and establishing equal partnerships.

8th House (House of Transformation): Dejanira in the 8th house can indicate deep wounds and vulnerability surrounding power, intimacy, and shared resources. Healing may involve facing and transforming these wounds through introspection and empowerment.

9th House (House of Expansion): Dejanira in the 9th house may suggest a vulnerability and power dynamics in matters of beliefs, higher education, and travel. They may need to assert their own truths and establish boundaries in matters of faith and knowledge.

10th House (House of Career and Public Image): Dejanira in the 10th house can manifest as vulnerability and power dynamics in the individual's career and public image. They may need to navigate power struggles or victimization in their professional life and work towards establishing their own authority.

11th House (House of Community and Friendships): Dejanira in the 11th house may indicate vulnerabilities and power dynamics within social circles and friendships. Healing may involve setting boundaries and surrounding themselves with supportive and empowering connections.

12th House (House of Spirituality and Subconscious): Dejanira in the 12th house suggests past wounds and vulnerabilities in the realm of spirituality, subconscious patterns, and solitude. Healing may involve introspection, spiritual practices, and establishing healthy boundaries with the subconscious mind.

Remember that these interpretations are general and the specific placement of Dejanira in each house can vary among individuals. It's important to consider the entire birth chart and the interactions between Dejanira and other planetary placements for a more comprehensive understanding of its influence.

[TW: Mentions of ch1ld 4buse]

🦋 Dejanira in 4th house (Capricorn, 6°): It’s unaspected to all of my planets and to my Nessus in 5th house. Dejanira represents the areas of life where one is susceptible to abuse, either from external sources or due to themselves [1].

Coincidentally, I also have 4° degree Saturn and there had been interpretations that the degree your Saturn will tell you what age you had to mature [2] and around this age, I was physically and verbally abused in the house by a caretaker my parents hired because both of them were working and couldn’t really look after me, so it took a while for them to notice that I have been abused by my caretaker.

I have always felt a little neglected in my home because my parents were not really around and my grandmother definitely favored my cousins than me for some reason (I do feel my mom is her least favorite child, mommy issues run deep in this household, lmao.)

My home is comfortable but I do feel a sense of suffocation inside.

🦋 Anyways, from my constant observation of friend groups when I’m bored... I have noticed that the leader or someone who is the group’s core friend is a Libra moon. The link between the other people in the group.

(+) I find it cute when people become friends and they end up adapting each other’s habits, lol. Makes you know what friend group they belong to and the person they’re really close to.

🦋 I finally have my friend’s birth time (straight from the certificate). I might have an explanation as to why she’s the only person I feel comfortable with skinship (Taurus Moon close friend). She has her Mars in my 4th house as this house also represents intimacy and bonding, and with her Capricorn Mars there, I feel physically safe and comfortable when I’m with her.

🦋 Mars signs and body movement!

I came across this Lindaland forum about Mars signs and body movement, and for me, it is accurate (Link is in the last part).

    🌸 Gemini Mars: being restless, darting eyes, fast-paced walker, and clumsy af (keeps tripping and stubbing toes even on a flat surface)

🦋 Leo Moons really care and is meticulous about their physical appearance, how they present themselves, and how they appear to others. This might be even more emphasized if their Moon is in the 1st house, however this placement might lead caring for their looks to being obsessive about it.

🦋 Someone with Juno conjunct Saturn might marry after 29 (Saturn’s years of revolution), will only have one romantic relationship in their life, and is a monogamist. Marriage might come later in life but is long-lasting.

🦋 Other people with Venus sextile Pluto, do you also tend to be obsessive with your crushes to the point of limerence? I have it at 0° which probably explains why I will rarely be attracted to someone, but when I do, I go all in and become limerent. every. single. time. Oh, and I also get deeply jealous even with an Aquarius Venus.

(+) Also, we are talking about Aquarius which is described as somewhat aloof and detached but friendly and humanitarian. This is how my friendships are, I am fine with being alone for some time and okay with just meeting once every six months with my friends. Just like my crushes, my social circle is very limited and I make new friends rarely. However, with my Venus-Pluto aspect, I also tend to be obsessive with them, the thirst to know every piece of information about them, because you need to know your friends, right?

🦋 Piggybacking on the Aquarius discussion, Aquarius Moons tend to be the first person in a room to greet you and acquaint you with the group, they also tend to have a wide social circle. An Aquarius Moon classmate of mine will bump into a person they know in, literally everywhere.