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Cheryl Strayed, author of "Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar," talks about how we can't convince people to love us, and why we should buy ten books of poetry and read them each five times. The full interview from a 2012 episode of "Conversations On The Coast with Jim Foster" can be heard now wherever you get your podcasts.
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What is Love?
Note on the text: I used the 2022 edition of Cheryl Strayed’s Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice from Dear Sugar as published by Vintage Books
Love. Human being have been searching for love, chasing it, since time immemorial. And love is the number one topic of discussion in this 21st century version of Dear Abby.
The most beautiful thing about life as I see it is that we are the ones who “get to define the terms” of our own lives (18). No one else gets to do that. Same with love, no one gets to really tells us what love is. We get to decide that for ourselves. There is a sense in which love can be whatever it is that you need it to be because there’s a degree to which it is subjective. And people’s inability to understand that is at the core of why many people remain in unhealthy relationships for as long as they do. They know, somewhere in the back of their mind, that the spouse who abuses them does not really love them, yet they choose to force themselves to believe that the other person loves them just because they say that they do, and that’s why they stay in those relationships for far longer than they have to. They stay because they force themselves to believe what the other person says when they say “I love you” even if the person being abused knows without a doubt that they would not treat another person that they loved the way that their spouse, in this example, is treating them.
Love is, and can be, a multitude of things. It can be as “light as the hug we give a friend or as heavy as the sacrifices we make for our children. It can be romantic, platonic, familial, fleeting, everlasting, conditional, unconditional” among many other things (15). The point is that love can be anything that you need it to be and only you get to decide what love is for you.
Love is an essential part of what it means to be human. It’s in your core. It rises above all of our superficial wants and desires. There is a difference between you not getting the love that you deserve vs you simply not getting what you want, and the difference is simple yet profound: our core doesn’t go away. Interests change and desires fade but what it’s in your core doesn’t and “the truth that lives there will eventually win out. It’s a god [that] we must obey, a force that inevitably brings us to our knees” (174). It’s up to you to decide (and define) what love means to you, and its also up to you to get the type of love that is most meaningful for you. The kind that nourishes your unique body and soul. It’s your life. Don’t let anyone else live it for you.
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About last night... I met this fun fab group of women at the @pasadenaplayhouse for the opening night of @niavardalos play #TinyBeautifulThings The play pulled at our heartstrings, made us laugh and cry, and gave us girls a night of fulfillment and joy. It’s always an amazing time to be out with these ladies! Head to the blog to read all about it, and see a little snippet from my Q&A with the cast of Tiny Beautiful Things. #dearsugar #pasadenaplayhouse #theatre #winewednesday #historictheater #mommyblogger #mno #momsnightout #girlsnight #momblogger #lamommies #losangelesmoms #losangelesmom #losangelesmomblogger #lablogger #losangelesblogger #pasadena #losangeles #lamommybloggertribe #lambt (at Pasadena Playhouse) https://www.instagram.com/p/BwI04qCAJmm/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=dbxdlkuubd6g
Not a thing. #tinybeautifulthings #DearSugar #girlfriendswhogetyou (at Shreveport, Louisiana)
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Go, even though you love him. Go, even though he’s kind and faithful and dear to you. Go, even though he’s your best friend and you’re his. Go, even though you can’t imagine your life without him. Go, even though he adores you and your leaving will devastate him. Go, even though your friends will be disappointed or surprised or pissed off or all three. Go, even though you once said you would stay. Go, even though you’re afraid of being alone. Go, even though you’re sure no one will ever love you as well as he does. Go, even though there is nowhere to go. Go, even though you don’t know exactly why you can’t stay. Go, because you want to. Because wanting to leave is enough.
Dear Sugar, The Rumpus #77
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Remember the other day when I stumbled across the little library at the park? Well, all of the books that were in there were either kid’s books or ones I’ve already read. Except this one. It’s not something I’d normally gravitate to but i figured I’d give it a shot. If ever there was a right time and right place moment for me. I read it cover to cover in about 2 hours. Some of it genuinely made my stomach hurt from anger and some made me ache with laughter. But. There was one piece in there that I NEEDED to read. I did not like what it said, but I needed to read it. This is a book I’ll undoubtedly read so many times. Highly recommend. So glad I stumbled across this gem. #cherylstrayed #tinybeautifulthings #dearsugar #downtownpensacola #upsideofflorida #littlelibrary (at Alabama Square)
