#coping tactic

If you ever brought a toddler to the supermarket, you know how challenging it can be. There are ‘how to’ books on ‘Get your toddler to behave in a supermarket’ just like other strategy books.

I watched a mother dragged her screaming toddler out of the cart yesterday as he kicks and tried to wriggle out of her arms. I’m not judging, I’m more relieved that’s not me. Although I did check on Samuel…

Problem: I am bored out of my mind by this thing I'm doing at work. 

Possible solutions:

Work my way through this one module and then take a lunch break

Stop working on this and change tasks for a while

Surf the net all afternoon

Ramifications:

Work my way through this one module and then take a lunch break - that sounds like a good idea. It's only 22 minutes until 1:00, and I can go take a walk at the beach and chill 

Stop working on this and change tasks for a while - I may wait until Monday to finish the other stuff. After lunch I can work on other projects, that might be good

Surf the net all afternoon - this will just make me even more bored

Thought: I should participate in the research study:

Is it true? I don't know

Absolutely certain it's true: No

Feel with thought? Sad, like I'm letting myself and someone else down

Without the thought? Fine

Turnaround: I shouldn't participate in the research study

The research study should participate in me - yeah, they should make it easier for me

Circumstance: I cancelled on the research study

Thought: I should be going, 

Feeling: Bad/sad/guilty

Action: I'm doing this. But otherwise I'd just feel sad and guilty

Result: Who knows. Eating, beating myself up, bad stuff

Result I want: To feel safe and comfortable and free with my decision

Action to get that result: Do this work and just let it go

Feeling: Confident in my deciion