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How to Convince Your Friends About Gun Control: A Guide for Liberals and Conservatives

  In these trying times, it is important to remember how to convince people instead of repeating whatever a news anchor, who makes thirty thousand dollars a day, says. When liberals are trying to make it so that machines that can only kill are somehow controlled; And conservatives insist that they are responsible enough to have the power to kill sixty people at a time, when it is called for, and…

The holidays are merry and bright...and full of social and family obligations that sometimes can get awkward. You may find yourself cornered by a strange co-worker at an office party or being grilled by your eccentric aunt about why you are not married yet. Today we share some tips on how to survive the holiday season with grace and humor with our Pinch Proof Conversation Guide!

You are invited to a holiday party and realize when you show up that you only know the host/hostess - who is very busy entertaining guests. Time to practice the art of polite conversation! Hang out by the food table and remark on the tastiness of your favorite appetizer. "I recommend the bacon-wrapped dates. So delicious! I love the mix of sweet and salty." Bonus if you can figure out who brought a dish and compliment them directly. Ask for the recipe! Or approach a group and inquire how they know the hostess. Talking about social connections may spark mutual interests. Some fail-safe conversation starters: complimenting a woman on an accessory or piece of their ensemble, or mention a current popular movie and ask for reviews or recommendations. Stay long enough that the host/hostess knows you made an effort to attend the fete, but do not feel obligated to prolong your presence there. Mingle for a bit and then quietly slip out after thanking him or her for inviting you.

At your office party, a co-worker (whom you are not close with) has indulged in too many holiday spirits and is attempting to unload a lot of emotional baggage on you. Do not be tempted to partake in gossip or the vulnerable moment. This person will likely regret sharing personal information once they have their wits about them again. Think about how you would feel! Get him or her some water and firmly, but politely, say, "I am glad you feel comfortable to share with me, but I think we could find a better place to talk if you still feel like confiding in me on Monday." Make sure the person has a safe ride home. (And do not bring it up to the person unless they initiate it.)

Your nosy aunt/uncle/family friend has decided to bring up the fact that you are not married in front of the whole family (again). Resist the urge to say anything snarky. Smile politely and say, "It's true I haven't found the one yet - but I am so happy living my life that I don't have time to dwell!" Mention some exciting things you have been doing with your time lately - a new hobby, an upcoming trip, etc. Steer the conversation in another direction...and avoid the meddlesome family member for the rest of the gathering, if you can!

Someone gives you a holiday gift unexpectedly. Depending on how close you are with the person, you can choose to respond in a few different ways. If it is a dear friend you can say, "Please accept my apology. I don't have your gift yet! I do have the perfect thing in mind and cannot wait to give it to you next time we get together." A second option: we recommend Pinch Proof fans keep an emergency stash of gifts - a few small items that would be enjoyed by anyone - for these situations. Lastly, you can just graciously thank the person for thinking of you. Do not feel pressured to return the gesture if you had not anticipated a purchase for the person. Treat them to a coffee or drink next time you see them if you feel awkward about "owing" them anything.