#context blindness

Colleague (say H) - What you are planning to gift in marriage ceremony of J (another coleague)?

Me (say I) - Book.

H - Its very inappropriate gift for marriage ceremonies.

I - But previously i gifted book as gift in marriage ceremony of another colleague (say G). (S)he was really really happy to get the book. Although other colleagues later told me it was an inappropriate choice, but G was really happy.

H - anyone will NEVER tell if they dislike a gift. Because telling so is very offensive and misleading. Also it dismays the struggle the giftbearer performed.

I - well, then tell me how can i know what is a good gift for marriage ceremony of J? I think then its best to ask her/him about what would be an appropriate gift.

H - NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO. Never ever do so. That behaviour would be horribly anticultural and antisocial. If you stay in our country, you have to respect our morals, ethics, cultural standards.

I - Then what could be the other method? Observing J' s purchase patterns and other preferences? Secretly stalking J?

H - Come down to reality. You are thinking too much imaginative and absurd way. Think in THE REAL and PRACTICAL way.

I - I am thinking "THE" REAL and PRACTICAL way but it is you who confusing me into unreal mystery.

H - No, you are being confusing.

I - So then tell me what is the right gift and how could i choose it?.

H - Its simple. Gift them what you like.

I - Books?

#REBLOG #AWARENESS #TRAUMA-PREVENTION

Was I very conservative?

Was I too obedient, "good guy stereotype"?

Was I a sexist, hater of opposite genders?

Did I had an overly obsessive compulsive stricture on morals?

NOOOOOOOOOO.

My extreme "Context blindness" explains nearly all of it.

i was be like if something is forbidden, then it must be forbidden for everywhere, everyone, and forever. And if something else is allowed, it is allowed everywhere , with everyone, and everywhere.

IT WASNT SOMETHING I LOGICALLY DEDUCED.

ITS SOMETHING I FELT

I did not myself logically realised why i had such an aggressive fear. I failed to verbalise it.

Even I myself often ended up to wrong conclusions especially somebody else is expecting and cue-ing me to someother shitty oversimplified explanations. The oversimplified explanations may came from therapists, teachers, classmates, parents and relatives, anyone.

I did not knew that other people have a too-different cognition.

I DID NOT KNEW THE OTHER PEOPLE'S WAY OF COGNITION TOO, NORMALLY.

I did not had any idea that what is inappropriate in one place, could be appropriate thing in another place. I did not knew that other people's morals and ethics depend lot on context.

(Source)