#comfy asks

Ooh thank you for asking(: this is a fun one because it allows me to get in-depth for no reason at all.

Cozy asks if anyone else would like to play!

So Cyri is not good at the gesture of affection thing, giving or receiving (at least and especially not in the beginning) on account of never having been in a long term relationship and being a little uncomfortable with the idea. But Davrin is really good as casual gestures of affection, which I think is really good for Cyri because then it doesn't feel to overt or scary. So small things like bumping shoulders/hips intentionally, brief touches to the small of her back or sort of drive-by kisses on the cheek or head are good and nice(:

I think it does calm her to know that he's around in general, but if I were to pick something that Davrin could do when they're alone that does soothe her, just rubbing small circles on her back makes her feel comfy/sleepy

I liked it because I could relate to them, because they always asked before hugging someone (like the respect for another's personal space) etc. They showed (me) that dating, especially another autistic person, could be fun. And tbh, I've never dated, and looking at NT dating shows never made me want to try it.

I think it's totally okay for an autistic person to see the show as relatable!!! I think the show did well with showing relatability in the autistic people, and even in some of the families in all honesty. I think they even did well with lots of accommodations, like you mentioned.

My big issue honestly is just with how allistics viewed the show. It was really hard to watch it with people who weren't autistic (cue lots of ableism from them 😫) but honestly before I watched it with them I kinda found it relatable and likeable too! If I had watched it with another autistic person it probably would've been enjoyable to watch.

When I first heard of the show before seeing it I was so excited about the idea. Sadly however, I think there are issues with some of the content in the show, such as functioning labels and some stuff from the counselor (psychologist? Don't remember, sorry!) As well as how sometimes it felt like autistic people were infantized. It should be acknowledged that every show is going to have problematic issues (I feel like it's kinda sadly unavoidable). Also I felt like the target audience wasn't autistic people and was instead NT ppl, which just felt uncomfy to me. Acknowledging the problems and still finding parts of the show enjoyable/relatable/etc. is 10000% okay!!!!

(I feel like if the show was made with a mostly/if-not all autistic production team then it would've been AMAZING bc those issues would've been diluted heavily.)

For an example if it helps, I really like The Umbrella Academy on Netflix! Unfortunately, the show is rampant with anti-semitism and general issues and flaws and problematic things. I can acknowledge those issues and still find things to enjoy about the show! Things are RARELY ever completely good/bad, and most entertainment has a lot of nuance to dig through. There are some amazing dynamics to be found in The Umbrella Academy, but there are also a lot of issues.

What is Comfy Asks?

Comfy Asks is where you can vent about personal issues, conflicts in your mind, things going on in your life that are stressing you out, and anything else! You can do all of this anonymously (but you can ask publicly!) and talk about almost everything, you can also ask for advice on topics or whatever comes to mind! (Also feel free to ask me any questions as well!!)

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• No Aggressive Criticism - I don’t mind small critics and what-not, but if you are planning on insulting people or things just so you can, please know you will probably be ignored <3

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does anyone have some suggestions?