#clearlemon

It's out my man.

@ladyhallen Is this a real fic on AO3 or FF.net that I can save?

I’m posting it later!

Usually, I post a fic in tumblr to check the reception. Do people like it or not...

If it’s positive, I post it. If not...well, it disappears into the bowels of my laptop, never to be seen again. 

You know what? Yes, children have ideas, thoughts, and feelings. However, it's a parent's job to monitor them. While eating chocolate everyday and all the time will just make an adult fat, children need proper nutrition to grow. Are they dolls? A little bit. You can't say that wearing two pairs of pants is ok to let a kid go out in.

“Are they [children] dolls? A little bit.”

Holy shit batman. Taking care of your child and ensuring that they are properly fed and clothed, as well as explained why they have to eat certain things and wear certain things instead of others is a parents job, yeah, but holy shit you dense motherfucker.  How do ya look at “children have thoughts, ideas and emotions that adults disregard due to their age” and make the leap that it means 1: it means they’re DOLLS until they can care for themselves, 2: that those thoughts, ideas, and emotions all come down to you know kid shot because they know no better and OH SHOULD BE DISCOUNTED BECAUSE OF BEING CHILDREN.

It’s not a parents job to play mind police and monitor a kids thoughts, ideas and emotions-- it’s a parents job to look at what is developing in their child, and foster in their child good, positive, creative, constructive, or just.. shit, just look at your kid and go “ok going out in the snow in only two pairs of pants isn’t a good idea, why do you wanna wear that?” or “You know, kiddo, if you wear one pants and a warm shirt, and a coat with boots, we can make some snowmen!”

I can’t even put words together on the dolls thing. Ok, i can, but they’re mostly “what the everloving fuck is wrong with you” and that doesn’t actually clarify why i’m horrified at your words. Not necessarily what was actually typed out-- kids do definitely need nutrition, my ass went to bed hungry enough to know that. I know wandering around in just pants isn’t a good idea because cold or just cleaning issues.  But the dolls bit. No, nope, neeeope.  Children are people. They are not unfeeling, inhuman things that gain personhood and humanity once they hit 18 or some arbitrary marker of maturity.  Children, especially small children, start forming their ideas about the world and mentally and physically testing what they know about the world. They ask questions, they have ideas about what can and cannot work and they try things. They are learning and they keep learning and it is a parent’s job to fucking teach them. Are all those ideas logical to adult people? OF FUCKING COURSE NOT! WE ALREADY KNOW PRETTY MUCH HOW SHIT WORKS! But to them it’s a world of wonder and discovery! What are the boundaries of reality? They don’t know! Let them have that experimentation and just be there to kind of guide them along with it! That’s literally the function of parents and community in child-rearing!

Just telling them no, just telling them not to do something, just telling them it’s not a good idea and not explaining or treating them like dolls to order around only teaches them that there are a whole swath of things that They Should Never Do.

And you know what? You wanna know something? You actually can eat chocolate everyday and be just fucking fine depending on your metabolism, or if you have an eating disorder and are in the routine of convincing yourself to eat so you can get to that chocolate. Or you know, you just fucking want chocolate because you fucking can.  If you’ve ever gone outside in a heavy winter, you’d damn well know that putting two pairs of pants-- with a coat, naturally-- is how you keep from getting frostbite while going outside to take care of barn animals, get the mail, shovel the driveway, go to a friends house to see if they’re ok, fix a blown pipe.

It'll be fine. I do the same with frozen strawberries and beer.

The only way you’d disappoint me is if you said you’d vote for Trump. Even then, I’d still respect your views and read your work.

Anyone?

Edit: Thanks @clearlemon and @furionbeauty