#childrenspeak

Dear parents everywhere,

Hi this is your children speaking, we have been noticing that you suffer from "I am the adult and you are the child-itis" a very serious inflammation of your egos and it needs to be healed before things get worse. Here are a few things you can do to prevent that.

1.) Respect your child's personal space. Don't go through their things, don't make them feel paranoid, don't barge into their room uninvited, yes it may be your house, but we as your children deserve just as much respect you do, we won't respect you until shown respect as well.

2.) Understand that you to, can be a procrastinator, so do not make your child frustrated when they procrastinate when you don't have any room to talk.

3.) If your child shows you something they like, or something that they are proud of, don't make snub remarks, actually ask them about it and get to learn more before you judge them, chances are, you were into some pretty stupid stuff "back in the day"

4.) Don't think you win the argument by turning off the internet, now if your child does something totally out of proportion, then turning it off and grounding them is not a bad idea, but over little things like forgetting to vacuum is not going to help, chances are the internet is a safe place for your child, they have friends on there that they can talk to and most likely they are more pleasant to talk to than you are because you're too old fashioned to understand the real problems you are causing for your child.

5.) For the love of god, if your child has trouble sleeping, and is always tired, something can be wrong, and it is most likely stress. Yelling at them about it isn't going to help them sleep, its going to make them more stressed out.

6.) Let's say your child is gay, bi, pan, demi, trans, etc, and they are scared to death of coming out to you, and they do, and you yell. First off, why would you be so upset with this? It isn't as if they committed mass genocide so slow your roll. It took a lot of guts to do this and all you do is judge them. Grow up, the world is changing, and it could be a brighter place without your homophobic remarks. If they tell you they aren't comfortable with their body, don't get upset, listen to them, talk it through, understand them, and help them be comfortable. If they are in love with someone of the same sex, at least being teenage parents is out of the question, its not that big of a deal, let them be who they are, don't hold them back, they are your CHILD for crying out loud!

7.) And lastly, understand that if you are there for your child, they will come to you with things that is hard for them to say, because everyone deserves to be treated with respect.

We hope this helps and we hope you will become a more loving parent.