For those who do not know, a love language refers to the way in which a person most prefers to express or be shown love by others. There are five main categories: acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, words of affirmation, and physical touch. A person can respond to more than one love language (as each is generally felt on a spectrum), but there is usually one which stands out above the rest.
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Love languages are most notably used in association with romantic relationships but can be extended to friendships and family relationships. The understanding of one’s love language can lead to building healthier relationships. Understanding your characters love languages can help you to further understand your character’s motivations and their relationships with the characters around them. And so, I’ve created this tag to assist writers in doing just that! Listed below is a template depicting all 5 love languages and a list (though not exhaustive) of examples that can be associated with each language. Feel free to add anything that your own character personally experiences.
Rules: Bold the words/phrases that your character most associates with their love language. Italicize their primary love language if they experience more than one or any you feel are especially important.
Acts of Service ~ dishes * laundry * change the bedding * put gas in the car * clean the car * pack * cook a meal * feed/walk the dog * pay the bills * mop * sweep * organize * “let me do this for you” * take the kids to school * call the plumber * grocery shop * doing chores together *
Receiving Gifts ~ trading presents * thoughtful presents * surprises * buying dinner * big presents * small presents * handmade presents * expensive gifts * time consuming presents * humorous presents * holiday/anniversary presents * edible treats * tokens * “I saw this and thought of you”
Quality Time ~ communication * direct eye contact * dates * vacations * car rides * shared hobby * “let’s do something together” * walks in the park * sitting in comfortable silence * solving a problem together * discovering shared interests * making an effort to spend time together *
Words of Affirmation ~ * “I love you” * pet names * nicknames * compliments * hidden meanings * private jokes * “I’m so proud of you” * public acknowledgement of the relationship * “You are really good at (blank) * “You look nice today” * “I like your (physical description)” * “I like the way you (do something)” * open/honest communication *handwritten notes/texts * encouragement/support *
Physical Touch ~ * hugs * surprise/from behind hugs * hair touches * shoulder brushes * petting * polite PDA * graphic/mature PDA * hand holding * sitting on each other’s lap * sharing a single chair * sitting very closely together on the couch * cuddling * shaking hands * nose kisses * forehead touches * face/neck touches * sharing a blanket * sharing body heat * face/neck kisses
Acts of Service ~ dishes * laundry * change the bedding * put gas in the car * clean the car * pack * cook a meal * feed/walk the dog * pay the bills * mop * sweep * organize * “let me do this for you” * take the kids to school * call the plumber * grocery shop * doing chores together
Receiving Gifts ~ trading presents * thoughtful presents * surprises * buying dinner * big presents * small presents * handmade presents * expensive gifts * time consuming presents * humorous presents * holiday/anniversary presents * edible treats * tokens * “I saw this and thought of you”
Quality Time ~ communication * direct eye contact * dates * vacations * car rides * shared hobby * “let’s do something together” * walks in the park * sitting in comfortable silence * solving a problem together * discovering shared interests * making an effort to spend time together
Words of Affirmation ~ “I love you” * pet names * nicknames * compliments * hidden meanings * private jokes * “I’m so proud of you” * public acknowledgement of the relationship * “You are really good at (blank) * “You look nice today” * “I like your (physical description)” * “I like the way you (do something)” * open/honest communication *handwritten notes/texts * encouragement/support
Physical Touch ~ hugs * surprise/from behind hugs * hair touches * shoulder brushes * petting * polite PDA * graphic/mature PDA * hand holding * sitting on each other’s lap * sharing a single chair * sitting very closely together on the couch * cuddling * shaking hands * nose kisses * forehead touches * face/neck touches * sharing a blanket * sharing body heat * face/neck kisses
Acts of Service ~ dishes * laundry * change the bedding * put gas in the car * clean the car * pack * cook a meal * feed/walk the dog * pay the bills * mop * sweep * organize * “let me do this for you” * take the kids to school * call the plumber * grocery shop * doing chores together
Receiving Gifts ~ trading presents * thoughtful presents * surprises * buying dinner * big presents * small presents * handmade presents * expensive gifts * time consuming presents * humorous presents * holiday/anniversary presents * edible treats * tokens * “I saw this and thought of you”
Quality Time ~ communication * direct eye contact * dates * vacations * car rides * shared hobby * “let’s do something together” * walks in the park * sitting in comfortable silence * solving a problem together * discovering shared interests * making an effort to spend time together
Words of Affirmation ~ “I love you” * pet names * nicknames * compliments * hidden meanings * private jokes * “I’m so proud of you” * public acknowledgement of the relationship * “You are really good at (blank) * “You look nice today” * “I like your (physical description)” * “I like the way you (do something)” * open/honest communication *handwritten notes/texts * encouragement/support
Physical Touch ~ hugs * surprise/from behind hugs * hair touches * shoulder brushes * petting * polite PDA * graphic/mature PDA * hand holding * sitting on each other’s lap * sharing a single chair * sitting very closely together on the couch * cuddling * shaking hands * nose kisses * forehead touches * face/neck touches * sharing a blanket * sharing body heat * face/neck kisses
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