#cattiness

Men call women bitchy, and talk about how we are always competing with each other? But have you ever observed men, and their supposed ‘banter?’ Some of the savage shit that they say and do to each other? The entire thing is a pissing contest to see who can be alpha, masquerading as ‘humor.’ Some men actually really believe it is funny at this point - just part of being a man in our society. Boys will be boys and all that BS. But stripped down, it is about proving who is the more ‘manly,’ or who is superior as far as the social rules that they operate within and have set for themselves. Stupid stuff like other guys falsely claiming they are veterans at a game that you are actually a veteran at should not be this big affront, but it is because to the actual veteran, because he sees it as his opportunity to be superior being taken away. Men are totally catty, but they are catty about different things than women are. Men are just bad as if not worse than women, it seems, because their egos are extremely fragile.Feeling this pressing need to teach your fellow guy a thing or two about sports terms is extremely petty, and is not actually about teaching your fellow guy anything. it’s about schooling them, and letting them know that you are superior. Never seen anything more petty

I think when girls get all catty with one another someone might have a small problem with their own self esteem/confidence and then that also bruises the ego slightly if you say it to them. So the only thing I think you can do is build up their confidence, whatever they’re picking on you for, build up that part of them to themselves. It’s real comes down to comparing yourself to other’s and feeling inadequate but realizing we’re all moving at different speeds and wave lengths through life.

I have zero patience for women who frown upon other women who dont need the approval of men. Like ok I get it, your self worth is based on how much male attention you receive, but you can't expect for us all to be the same.