#cat-fur

People are angry with me and calling me ableist and there's a callout against me because I don't want interaction from endogenic systems (which have been called ableist by traumagenic systems, and there's also racist/culturally appropriative endo systems) or from system alters who break my DNI. But like.... if I support endos, people will be mad. And if I don't support them, people will be mad. It's a lose-lose situation 🤷🏾‍♀️ But I just can't bring myself to support something that so many people claim and have told me is ableist, and I definitely can't support something that is irrefutably racist and culturally appropriative. If that makes me a bad person, okay then, I guess :/

Additionally, people think I'm ableist for setting boundaries by stating that I don't want people with exclusionist, aphobic, panphobic, etc. alters to follow me because it makes this space feel unsafe. I'm aware that hosts don't control their system mates and who they are, so I don't want to somehow jeopardize this space or make others feel unsafe by allowing exclusionary people in it. I can't control their actions, and I know their hosts can't do so either and I would never ask them to try to anyway. I feel like it's just better for everyone to set the boundary like this. It's not like I'm intentionally, like... attacking people for their alters or stating they're bad people; that's fucked up. I just want to feel safe and comfortable and want the same for my followers. I guess that also makes me a bad person, though.

And then everything IRL is falling the fuck apart rn, so I am just... not coping lmao. At all. Like, I break down far more often than I'd like to admit. Either that, or I shove it all down for months until I have a panic attack. It's fun times, y'all... real fun times. I've bought like 6 succulents in the past month as a """coping mechanism""" 😂

If you hover over the upper right corner you can see the time stamp on desktop

That’s the biggest “issue” I have with people pointing out my age.

If I say something homophobic or transphobic or just blatantly wrong, Yes - by all means, call me the fuck out. 

But if your (general you, not you specifically) only retort to my posts is to point out my age, then I think I’m doing okay.  You choose not to attack my opinion or the facts; You come after me for my age, something so pointless and irrelevant to discourse in general.  That says infinitely more about the people doing it than it does about me.

153) How did you meet your spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend/partner? [If you have one.]

- We met through high school. I liked them ever since I first saw them in the hallway when we were 15. We finally ended up being friends during our senior year and sat with each other at lunch. We got together by screaming across the lunch table “DO YOU WANT TO GO OUT WITH ME?!” I had to text them later to ask and make sure we were actually dating, though, lmfao

"Yes, I actually thought that somehow." It's the comp het lmao. Also dating the first girl who asks you out once you realize you're gay is such a Mood™. Like, fuck yes, gimme a girlfriend now NOW!!