#budige

Hello lovely,

I’m very sorry, it sounds like you’re going through so much right now, and it’s all creating a mess in your head. Let’s try to break it down a bit, because it can be so hard to find a way forward when everything is tangled.

Firstly, I’m so sorry to hear that your budgie is being put down. It’s not easy to lose a pet at all, as they become part of your family. If you can’t cremate or bury her, do you think that you could set up a little memorial shrine for her? Maybe a little photo in a frame, with some things that remind you of her? That way, you’re still getting that closure. Something I want to really recommend is contacting a pet loss Helpline. A few countries have them, so I encourage you to see if your country has one. They can be really helpful in guiding you through the grief that you’re experiencing. You can also look up ‘pet loss grief’ online, and it should come up with pages relevant to your country. For Victoria, Australia, there’s this one from the RSPCA. Reaching out for a support like that may really help you to work through these feelings.

With your friend, I’d really recommend seeing if you can have a serious chat with her. Let her know that you want to talk with her, but you want to do it in a way that neither of you get’s worked up - you just want to find a solution or compromise. You can then let her know how you’re feeling alone, and would like to see her more. See if you can work with her to find something that suits both of you, and doesn’t leave one of you feeling like you’ve missed out. Remember to stay calm whilst discussing this, so that you can find a solution together.

Those people that are saying those things about you (whether to your face or behind your back) are absolutely horrible. You don’t deserve that kind of hate at all. And you know what? If you don’t think that there’s anything wrong with your weight, then you’re right. People just try to attack others on what most people are insecure about, weight being one of them. But what they say is just plain stupid, as are they. These people attacking you are not worth anyone’s time. Are you currently at school? If you are, I’d strongly recommend speaking to the counsellor at your school about the bullying. They can help, and make it stop. I didn’t think it was possible when I was being bullied, but getting the school counsellor involved was the best decision that I’ve made. It really reduced the bullying by so much, and it made me feel more comfortable at school.

As for failing school, it may also be a good idea to speak to the school counsellor about this as well, or a teacher that you trust. They can look at ways to support you through this. Speaking up is something that I always encourage, as if they don’t know, nothing can happen to help, but when they do know, plans can be put into place to support you.

The last thing that I want to recommend is contacting your doctor and speaking to them about all the things that you’re feeling. They may be able to help find ways to gain control over all of these feelings that are getting on top of you, whether that be through therapy, medication, or something else. I think that seeing them would be a great first step in the right direction. I also want to let you know that those Helplines and Web Counsellors are there to help you at any time you need. You can talk to them about anything that’s causing you distress, and they’ll help you to work through it.