Vernaculars and Misogyny (and antiziganism)
@erzsebetrosztoczy this one is for you mwuahh <3
mandatory disclaimer: I can obvi speak to the Hungarian experience but I'm pretty sure it's also common elsewhere
Okay so it's nothing new that vernaculars (tåjszólås, dialect) are looked down upon. No matter what vernacular you speak, if it's not proper Hungarian you are viewed as uneducated, you're branded as the 'vidéki' (person from the countryside) or 'falusi" (villager) and depending on the dialect, they might even sprinkle in a bit of antiziganism. Nothing new, just laying down the bases.
Let me briefly mention codeswitching too, because while the words 'code-switching' and 'vernacular' were definitely popularized in English because of AAVE, they certainly don't only pertain to that. Code-switching can happen with any vernacular and I think it's a pretty common experience for Hungarians with a tĂĄjszĂłlĂĄs (vernacular, dialect) that they learn how to speak 'proper Hungarian' in bigger cities but especially especially Budapest.
Now for me, half of the fam is in Budapest where I also live, but the other half is in Borsod where we visit quite frequently and guess what, I go to Borsod I speak with a tĂĄjszĂłlĂĄs (and according to my friends at home, sometimes it even slips out when I'm in Budapest). It's even a topic of laughs and giggles sometimes, because me and my dad immediately switch when we go to Borsod, something that we laugh at quite often because its that noticeable. Now speaking of Borsod, I don't even have to mention how this vernacular correlates with antiziganism đBut lets move on
Walking in Miskolc I was listening to how others speak, I definitely have a less noticeable tåjszólås since I'm not actually #bornandraised Borsodi but you know what else I noticed? Men tend to speak the vernacular more and/or more noticeably. Have you ever noticed that? It's one thing that kids are made to feel ashamed of their tåjszólås but I've noticed that shame and that need to code-switch is even more prominent in women. Because tåjszólås is viewed as something dirty, stupid, uneducated, the opposite of proper. "Rendes låny legyél, rendesen beszélj stb" (Be a proper girl, speak properly etc). Being proper is ingrained in girls and women, and that even shows in the way we speak and as a way to appear 'proper' I think a lot of women also develop a tendency to code-switch or try to unlearn their vernacular.
That's it that's the rant, anti-vernacular rhetorics affect women more.
