#borrowedfromafriend

In no specific order:

1. It’s okay to show emotion: all emotions: regardless of what - just be in control of what you CAN not what you WANT.

2. Disregard what people tell you about not being able to get a job without a certain hair color,style,design etc - that’s a lie. If I can get hired throughout having short blonde hair, blue hair, purple hair, pink hair, brown hair, shaved head- etc. you can too

3. When in the search for self discovery don’t be afraid to go back on what you already know: it DOESN’T mean you are settling- it means you are finding a balance.

4. When you have lost all hope in yourself, when you feel so broken you physically can’t pick yourself up off the floor- take a breath and ask yourself to get through the next 10 seconds - yes count to ten out loud. Then go ask for help and be honest. No matter how hard it is-yes even if you cry. It doesn’t have to be a doctor but don’t be afraid to go to one- they are here for a reason and guess what!? They have YOUR best interest. If not go tell someone you know who has your best interest. Help doesn’t mean your weak.

5. Being afraid of embarrassment will keep you at “average” your whole life. Why? Because it means your living in fear of truly allowing yourself to become you.

6. Expectations reduce joy. LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK: expectations reduce joy. Like any strongman competition or athletic event, you know there’s a strategy to how you play the “game” how you react to the event or play, and you know something you don’t expect to go wrong will and something you may expect to go wrong won’t. You adjust and adapt to make the best play possible. Stop setting expectations and holding yourself back.

7. Spend time alone. Don’t have the time?Yes you do- make it- and don’t be afraid to ask for it. Want to grow as an individual?: be with yourself. Learn about yourself. Teach yourself.

8. You will ALWAYS be okay. Regardless of the people that come and go throughout your life, regardless of the emotions that come along with that : you will always be okay. Why? Because you will always have YOU. Always. (See why number 7 is important)

9. You have to want to HELP yourself. Like I said before : ask for help but also know that when you do, you NEED to put that effort back into yourself : those around you cannot do it for you. They can provide support and opportunities but you; YOU need to do it. And you can’t fear that.