#bombshell babe

Be arrogant, you’re amazing. Be arrogant, you’re amazing. Be arrogant, you’re amazing.

To you women, you queers, yous of color, yous with disabilities, you who’ve been trained to doubt, to hide, and put yourself down.

Be arrogant.

You know why cis-het men get ahead? I know, the system, but focus on the micro-individual right now. Self-promotion, confidence, courage – call it what you will – it’s baseless arrogance.

My mind is tuned to a frequency of self-loathing: you’re lazy, you’re a failure, you’re unoriginal, and you deserve nothing. Society yells at me, you should be prettier and nicer, you sweet slut!

It’s been said a million times, a million ways but take this as today’s reminder to stop being so hard on yourself.

You’re amazing.

Maybe you’re not feeling too amazing, but pretend to believe it anyway. Stop apologizing and start asking for favors. Stop dotting i’s and go out on a limb.

You know me? I speak Chinese fluently, I read critical theory for fun, I can play an eight-page Debussy piece on the piano, I make everybody laugh, I cook restaurant-quality food from leftovers, I write every damn day.