I have had my Paragard for about 2.5 years and I completely done with the breakthrough bleeding heavy flow, and the cramps. I think it is causing inflammation outside of my uterus, and in general I think my body hates it and it’s never going to adjust.

So now I need to scheduled an appointment to get it removed, but before I can do that I need to figure out what to replace it with... and I’m freaking out about that a little bit. Honestly I would prefer to just get a tubal ligation or hysterectomy. I don’t want kids, and I would love to have that concern taken completely off the table, especially since my mom and sister have both had hysterectomies due to fibroids. I don’t want to slowly bleed have to death over the course of a decade before getting the help I need.

I know the arguments.

What if your partner/future partner wants kids?! Current partner doesn’t, and a future partner wanting biological children is a dealbreaker for me.

What if you change your mind?! Then I’ll adopt. If I am not financially in a place where I can adopt I shouldn’t be having kids anyway. And there are tons of kids out there who need a good home and if that was something I decided I wanted to do, I could provide that. 

my personal lance of longvaginismus