#binary loving nonbinary

If you are online dating, and are attracted to specific types of genitalia, but don't want to be an asshole towards trans, intersex, or altersex people, or don't want to lead them on - here's some advice.

Make it very clear in your dating profile what genitalia you are attracted to. You don't have to be graphic. You can just say the following:

"I am uncomfortable with mostly/fully androgenized genitalia in sexual settings. Please only contact if you currently have estrogenized genitalia." (Or, if you are willing to wait for sex, you can add "or are planning to have bottom surgery.")

Or

"I am uncomfortable with mostly/fully estrogenized genitalia in sexual settings. Please only contact if you currently have androgenized genitalia." (Or, if you are willing to wait for sex, you can add "or are planning to have bottom surgery.")

If you are also uninterested in ambiguous genitalia, you can specify that, too ("uncomfortable with mostly/fully estrogenized or ambiguous genitalia" or "uncomfortable with mostly/fully androgenized or ambiguous genitalia.")

And if you want to have biological children, say that too! ("I plan to have biological kids at some point.") Same goes for if you DONT want biological children ("I don't want biological kids, but I am willing to adopt" or "I am child free, and never plan on having kids.")

Absolutely DO NOT say "no trans/intersex/altersex people" (unless you are a prick.)

We created an alternate binitian (binary-loving-nonbinary) flag, to go along with the rest of the floral set.

It uses the colors of the original binitian flag, with the additional grey for the pistil, and green for the leaves. The design is a calico flower.

Pink represents women and feminine genders, blue represents men and masculine genders, green represents neutral genders, black represents genderlessness, grey represents partial-genders, yellow represents xenine and outherine genders, purple represents androgynous genders, and white represents multigenders/fluid or fluctuating genders.

For reference, the rest of the set (which we did not create) includes the sapphic (wlw), achillean (mlm), julietian (wlm), romeric (mlw), trixic (nblw), toric (nblm), and enbian (nblnb) flags.