#bettermentofself

Negativity/Complaining Destroys Problem Solving

While listening to one of my podcasts (Hello Freedom) concerning complaining, I began to think about all the ways that I have become one of THOSE people.  I have always prided myself on being a pragmatist, but always looking for the best while preparing for the worst.  If you met me in real life I would elicit one of two reactions. Love or hate and really nothing in between, and I like it that…

I have been periodically dipping my toe in, and there is so much to sift through each time.  I know who I am, what I want, and I DEFINITELY know what I don’t want.  It’s not a picky thing, just a no longer willing to deal with people who need fixing.  That also goes with friends as well.  Being in my early 40’s and having gone through all I have, there is no need for me to keep helping people who…

Why Are We Always In A Hurry To Wait?

This has long been a thing in our society, but it now seems to be the only thing. We get up in the morning hurrying the family so everyone can get to their destinations.  Picture the Jetsons opening sequence.  Yes everyone of us has to wait to actually get to our destinations.  Be it because of traffic, or waiting in line at school before the bell rings, or waiting in line at the coffee shop in…

A weekend to be away and just be a human being was very odd, but great.  It was just cold enough to need a light jacket, and warm enough to do a lot of walking.  I did not participate in as many things as I would have liked, but the long nap on a Saturday afternoon was worth it!

There were about 150 of us, and 5 in our cabin. I have not laughed so hard in a long time. Surrounded by great people…

Weekend Trip, To Be a Person

Tomorrow afternoon I am leaving for a trip. I have not done a trip just for me in so long it seems crazy to me.  I have a destination, reservation (made in February), and my Daughter will be with her Father for the weekend.  I will not be a Mother,  Single Woman, Salesperson, Sister, problem solver or anything else.  Just a person on a trip.

Unfortunately I did not know the date of a school event…

Finalizing Choices To be Decided

Do I stay or do I go?  Tracy Chapmam’s song “Fast Car” came on the radio the other day and really got my mind going.  I do not have to stay here and continue with this craziness.  I am blessed to have options to leave the state and end the cycle for both my daughter and I.  Major catch, I doubt BA would survive it and his relationship with our daughter would be what?

Here we are in April of 107…

The Psychosomatic Truth of Life

So I have previously written about The Secret, Positive Thinking, Being Your Authentic Self, and The Scaffolding of Perspective.  I really do believe in these things and remember as a child truly believing in them more than I do now.  Mostly because over the years we tend to get lazy with the lessons we learn and forget to put them into practice.  Think back on chemistry and algebra until you…