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I Don’t Understand Hate!

At least not when it comes to people, and especially when it comes to the other parent of your child.  Hatred of things and situations, I understand.  Hatred of people rarely computes, mostly because we are all a complex configuration of emotions, ideals, teachings, beliefs, and experiences. Most of the time when someone says they hate someone it’s because of a brief and fleeting moment of time…

Finalizing Choices To be Decided

Do I stay or do I go?  Tracy Chapmam’s song “Fast Car” came on the radio the other day and really got my mind going.  I do not have to stay here and continue with this craziness.  I am blessed to have options to leave the state and end the cycle for both my daughter and I.  Major catch, I doubt BA would survive it and his relationship with our daughter would be what?

Here we are in April of 107…

Delusions Of A Vulnerable Narsacist

So today was one of many in court.  Two years of being dragged in and out of court because BA was told my his first fiance that if he was married they could get more custody as the “stable couple” and reduce or eliminate his child support.  Then he met (while still engaged) KK and she was easier to control, so he became engaged to her in less than 90 days after a PFA had to be filed because he…

A Successful Day… Celebrating With Sushi An Cabernet!!!

To say that today was successful is fairly simplistic in the scheme of things.  Helped a neighbor by taking her kids to school in the morning. It’s great to help out another single mother.  Not a huge things, but every little bit helps.  I’ve been thinking a lot about how great it would be if there was a way to set up a compound for single parents to work together to help raise the children and…

The Difficulty of Changing Reaction Habits ~ From a Known Fixer

I admit it, I cannot hide it, I cannot deny it, I am a fixer.  You would think was not such a bad thing, unless you remember that I have been living in two years of fight or flight mode. Being a fixer can have wonderful and amazing opportunities to help others and make their lives a bit better.  We have ways of figuring things out and finding even the most obscure solutions.  The downside is we…