#behaviour

I'm going to make my response it's own post because I think the point is important

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As someone who is autistic and has BPD and CPTSD and loads of trauma yes you sometimes need to change how you interact with others to keep people around

When I was 13 I hit the few friends I had when I was angry

I had to change that in order to keep those friendships

When I was in my early 20s if I was losing an disagreement with my husband I would threaten to kill myself. My husband told me it hurt him and was cruel and manipulative behaviour, because it was.

So I worked hard to change that to keep my relationship

It's easy to say "I shouldn't have to change for others" and that's true to an extent. You shouldn't change your interests or passions or dim your light. And you should have space to be imperfect and flawed and not have to pretend your ugly bits aren't real. But if something you are doing it causing other people harm you kinda need to change that.

That's called "living in a society"

People adapt to each other and make space for each other in their lives. You adapt to them and they adapt to you

You start being more diligent about throwing away the empty toilet roll because it really bothers them. They start warning you before they run the blender because you hate loud noises

I stopped threatening to kill myself because I was mad I was losing an argument and my husband stopped being so vocally judgemental amount media he personally dislikes

There is a certain type of person who heard the phrase "your emotions are valid" and took that to mean "my emotional reactions and my behaviour are always objectively correct because my emotions are valid and if you have an emotional response or react to what I'm doing negatively then you are wrong and you can't be hurt because my emotions are valid"

And that's a recipe for disaster

Your emotions are valid to feel. They are how you feel and there are reasons you feel the way you do

However, your reactions and behaviour are something you can learn to control and can be irrational

KILLER WHALES CRAFT KELP TOOLS FOR SOCIAL GROOMING

In a remarkable discovery, researchers have documented wild Resident killer whale (Orcinus orca ater) manufacturing and using tools in a social context. Observed in the Salish Sea from April to July 2024, members of the endangered southern resident population were seen detaching short lengths of bull kelp (Nereocystis luetkeana) and using them during tactile interactions with a partner, a behavior the authors call allokelping. This behaviour differs from playful kelp draping commonly seen in cetaceans, whales in this study deliberately fashioned kelp segments using their teeth, positioned them between their bodies, and coordinated their movements to roll the kelp across one another’s skin.

This represents a potential case of tool-assisted allogrooming, a behaviour rarely documented in non-primates and never before in marine mammals. Statistical analyses suggest that allokelping may serve both hygienic and affiliative functions, being more common among close kin and individuals of similar age, and possibly linked to skin molting. The whales’ use of their entire bodies, rather than limbs, to manipulate the kelp, and the mutual benefit of the interaction, make this a unique form of tool use in the animal kingdom. If confirmed, it would expand our understanding of cetacean intelligence, culture, and the evolutionary roots of cooperation.

Photo: Orca grasps a bull kelp stalk by the holdfast end and detaches a short stipe segment for use in allokelping.

Ah! Intresting question. Me (but especially GF) are always very curious about animals behaviour and we know about Snow Leopard holding their tail in the mouth thing. So, I think is super intresting because there is one theory that people give for truth about the fact snow leopard do that to warm their noses to protect from the icy cold, but all photos about this was taken in captivity and almost never in snow places. So it looks like is still uncertain why snow leopard "bite" their tails, but more recent theory thinks is because is a stress response and\or a more playful behaviour caused by the captivity conditions. (GF passed me this small post from a ecologist\zoologist about snow leopard tail behaviour) Said all above, I think it would be perfectly reasonable that Megatronia, born in a lab and with dad like Megatron (yeah ofc he's funny and stupid bc is a crack fan comic, but just imagine to have him as father) and uncles like Shockwave (which she thinks highly of) and Soundwave, I can see that the little Megatronia could be pretty stressed and uses her tail as a stress relief T vT.